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I Use My Baby to Get VIP Treatment & I'm Not Sorry

Posted by on Aug. 8, 2014 at 10:34 AM
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I Use My Baby to Get VIP Treatment & I'm Not Sorry

by Judy Dutton

One evening I spent three hours with a squirmy 2-year-old on a plane waiting to take off… only we didn't. The flight ended up cancelled, so I towed my daughter home, then spent three hours on hold before I managed to re-book my flight. The next day, I packed us all up once again and headed to the airport. Only as I checked in, the airline attendant droned, "Your flight's been cancelled. And there are no more flights to your destination today."

Had I been traveling alone, my only option at that point would have been to walk off in a huff. Only I wasn't alone. I had a 2-year-old, which is equivalent to carrying a nuclear warhead. So I stood my ground, plunked my daughter's diapered butt on the counter, and I played the baby card.

"But my BABY is flying to see her GRANDPARENTS!" I wailed, then started sobbing with gusto. Then, as if on cue, my daughter started crying too. Sure, there were some real tears of frustration in there, but mixed in that cocktail was a strong dose of Machiavellian maneuvering which gave me a hunch that a hysterical mother clutching a hysterical baby might cause this impassive airline attendant to crack.

I was right. Rattled, the airline attendant said, "Wait here," scurried off for 5 minutes, then reappeared. "It turns out we've found a seat for you on a flight leaving later today!" she chirped.

Battle won, my tears stopped immediately. I smiled. Thank you, airline attendant! And thank YOU, baby!

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You know how on sinking ships, captains always say, "Women and children first?" In addition to life rafts, babies are your ticket onto overbooked planes and far more, if this ace up your sleeve is played right. It got me priority boarding onto that plane, to start. People also give up their subway and bus seats for me and my child. And if there's a long line to use the bathroom, my dancing toddler is carte blanche to cut to the front.

I know this "entitled parent" attitude rubs people the wrong way, but I would actually say that I don't feel "entitled" to plane seats, bus seats, toilet seats, or any of the perks I've enjoyed with a kid. I agree, wholeheartedly, that the baby card hits below the belt. But I use it anyway.

If I have any defense, it's this: moms face so many disadvantages -- in terms of work, wages, even in our struggle to carve out time to take a spin class -- that I feel it's okay to sometimes fight dirty to make up the difference.

And besides, moms are supposed to look out for their kids, sometimes to a fault. So while I do make my kid wait her turn for the baby swings or a seat at Chuck E. Cheese, I might not be so "fair" with more pivotal opportunities. For instance, I've seen plenty of parents pull strings to get their kids into private school. Is that fair? Hardly, so let's just admit that pretty much everyone pulls strings when they can. It's a war zone out there, and babies are great ammo.

For the record, if I were on a sinking ship and there weren't enough life rafts, I'd be the first to bellow, "Women and children first!" and make sure my daughter made it out alive. If that's the baby card, then sign me up for a lifetime membership.

Where have you played the baby card? Would you do it again?

 

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by on Aug. 8, 2014 at 10:34 AM
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Cutenessmom
by Gold Member on Aug. 8, 2014 at 10:39 AM

I admit it I never played this but once and failed so I  gave up.

EarlGrayHot
by on Aug. 8, 2014 at 10:39 AM
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Never.  while it's true it's harder to do some things with a baby you are a spoiled brat using your child all the time to get perks like this.  EVERYONE who was on that cancelled flight had good reasons to get where they were going and you are a jerk to think you and your child deserve more and are better than the rest of the passengers.

JackAttacks
by Angel on Aug. 8, 2014 at 10:43 AM

 i dont go out of my way to use the baby card but if you wanna give up your seat for me and babe or insist on buying him a toy then im certainly not gonna say no.

the.B.karma
by on Aug. 8, 2014 at 10:45 AM

I can't think of a particular circumstance I did this at all, but probably have. Oh well.

prdmama1154
by on Aug. 8, 2014 at 10:48 AM
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 I have not played that card. 

Gorilla_Mama
by Gold Member on Aug. 8, 2014 at 10:50 AM
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I haven't intentionally done it, but the few times someone's offerd to let my dancing toddler cut in front of them to use the bathroom I don't say no.

furbabymum
by on Aug. 8, 2014 at 11:09 AM
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 My DS crying hysterically in the back seat has gotten me out of 2 traffic tickets. I started joking that I was going to pinch him next time I was pulled over.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Aug. 8, 2014 at 11:15 AM
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Quoting furbabymum:

 My DS crying hysterically in the back seat has gotten me out of 2 traffic tickets. I started joking that I was going to pinch him next time I was pulled over.

But the question is, what were you doing to get pulled over...WHILE you have your child in the car? And you plan on there being a next time?

hautemama83
by Emerald Member on Aug. 8, 2014 at 11:23 AM
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I did once. Ds was 2 as well, we'd been flying all day just to get to the airport in DC, and have our flight cancelled. They wanted us to spend the night in the airport. Needless to say after having a "fit" they paid for a room and dinner for us. Sorry but no way was I going to get stuck sleeping in a busy airport, with a fussy toddler.
jen291985
by Bronze Member on Aug. 8, 2014 at 11:26 AM

Never and never. 

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