Five years ago, my husband cheated, which resulted in a child. He was stupid, but didn't love her, and it didn't break up our family, like she hoped. I told my husband that he had a choice, us (and our two children) or her and their child. He chose us. He pays child support at the absolute minimum ($250) that was based on his rank at the time minus credit for our kids. She's tried to get an increase and failed, because we ignore the financial disclosure requests, even though he has made rank. The child has insurance, but that's it. She's bitter because she didn't break up our marriage when she lied about being on the pill, and my husband chooses not to have contact with the child. I feel no guilt, I didn't sign up for an additional child and my husband has said (to me and her in the past ) that he regrets meeting her. He is an excellent and loving father, but refuses to break up his family for this other child. I'm sure many of you will question his love for our children because he's able to be disconnected from the other child, but things aren't black and white. His mistake was a bloop on our life that causes minimal discomfort. She chose to be a single mother and will have to explain to their child why. What would you do if your husband fathered an outside child?