I'm posting this because I need to vent it out. Your opinions and advice are always welcome.
My husband and I are separated and have been since July 4th. He went from being happy and wanting to stay together to he's not happy and doesn't want to pretend anymore to he's not sure what he wants to he wants a divorce. I found out from another source that he was with his DD's BM since we separated. He sent me messages saying that he's always loved her and it should have been her that he married and not me. We argued a lot and I decided to give him space.
Maybe a week later, I was overwhelmed with everything and needed someone to talk to. He was always my best friend first so I went to him because nobody understands me better than he does. I told him that I just need somebody that knows me to talk to and he's more than welcome to stop talking again when we were done and he agreed. He didn't want the conversation to stop. We're in the middle of a friendly conversation and he starts sending me dirty pictures of himself out of the blue. Long story short, the sexting began.
About two weeks later he tells me that he finds out that DD's BM has been cheating on him the entire time they've been back together and he knew since him and I started texting. (He assured me that's not why the sexting and flirting with me began and I believe him because it's still going on.) He finally called her on it and smashed her phone. Afterwards she tried to rip his throat out. (He sent me pictures and it does look like she legitimately tried to rip his throat out.) It also happened right in front of their DD. She is now in the psych hospital and he filed for a PFA and plans on having her charged.
He now tells me that he no longer loves her and that the messages I mentioned earlier were not even sent by him. He still loves me and misses me but is confused on what he wants. He never wanted a divorce and only said that because he was angry. What he wants is an indefinite separation so that we can work on things and see where it goes.
What bothers me is that he was in a relationship with this woman for a month and now has a date next weekend. He assures me that he doesn't want to be with this woman but I just don't know. He wants me to date and try to be happy but I just don't want to. He says that he's not trying to move on--he just wants to try new things and doesn't want to be alone.