Update...I missed my daughters ceremony because of her brother and she still won't speak to me or see me
My OP. I missed my daughter's ceremony because her brother had an absolutely horrible meltdown. I spologized profusely but she was still furious. She then didn't show up for Easter without calling or texting. She then didn't invite me to her graduation because "I wouldn't have bothered to show up anyway".
It's been months and she hasn't come by to visit me. Her brother is devastated and doesn't understand why his sister won't come see him or call him like she used to. If I call her or text her, she'll answer me but won't initiate it EVER. I told her I wanted to figure out how to spend a day with just her and she responded "LOL ya, okay, I'll believe that when I see it".
I offered family counselling on the phone one night and she just exploded saying I was a horrible mom to her, I always put her on the back burner, I didn't love her as much as I love my son and that the final straw for her was "his stupid little tantrum being more important than a once in a lifetime thing". She then said it was pathetic I keep trying, that her and her boyfriend laugh at me and my "big promises" of a manicure alone "as if she's supposed to be impressed at such a big gesture", sarcastically.
I'm truly at a loss. I've started coming to terms with the fact that it's as if I've lost my daughter. I know it's my fault but I can change the past and she won't even give me a chance to change the future. :(