Another S/O about cleaning..what about mess that is not toys?
I read through a bunch of the post aboout discipling your children for not cleaning up. It mostly focused on toys which could be removed or thrown away to prove a point. I'm struggling with a different issue and I'm at a loss. My kids are 9 & 11 and rarely leave toys around. They do leave dishes, wrappers, apple cores, etc. They also pull the blankets off the backs of the couch, push the sectional sofa out of order, and leave a food mess when they fix themselves something to eat. They basically leave a path of destruction in their wake and none of it is important to them so it is nothing I can "take away".
It is my own fault. I was a single, working mom and at the end of the day I was just too exhausted to care about a clean house. I felt guilt and wanted my free time to be spent with them and not spent cleaning. I would straighten up after they fell asleep. Now I am married and much more stable and my husband points out to me all the time how disrespectful and infuriating their messiness is. I agree with him, but no amount of nagging or loss of screen time has helped. I am open to any suggestions?