My SIL is 6 months pregnant with her first child. She has told me that she is scared and doesn't really know what to expect with the birthing process and parenting in general. I told her to ask me anything she wants and that I wish I had had someone to ask those questions when I was pregnant the first time around.
I told her that the biggest surprise for me was with labor and delivery with all my pregnancies . I told her my best advise is to keep an open mind and not be too upset if it doesn't go exactly as she plans or expects.
Well, after I said tha,t she started telling me that she is working on her birth plan which is to include a completely natural birth with no pain management. Also, she wants NO MEDICAL INTERVENTION of any kind. No internal or external monitors of the babies heart rate, no pitocyn and absolutely no c-section!
I told her I totally understand wanting to do it the most natural way possible, but wouldn't she want medical intervention should the baby be in distress and its a life or death situation or she is not able to finish delivering naturally and she needs a c-section? I told her I was glad I listened to my doctors advice because all my babies went into fetal distress due to the chord being wrapped around the neck.
Her response was "no, that won't happen to me. My doctor says the baby is healthy and I should have a totally normal delivery. Me and my baby won't need any medical intervention."
My question is, how can someone not want to do whatever it takes to save their babie's life? It is so strange to me that women get so caught up in their birth plan that they forget about the most important thing, the safety of their baby!