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Bus driver took my dds phone

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My dd (13) is home alone for about an hour to an hour and a half after school till my df gets home (I work afternoons/evenings) Yesterday my df got home and texted me to tell me she wasn't home which she should have been. I'm kinda freaking out because an hour and a half is REALLY late so I text her. She texts me back about twenty minutes later the bus driver turned the bus around and went back to the school because a kid sat in the wrong seat. I tell her to shoot me a text when she gets home. Her school is about a 45 minute drive from our house.

Fast forward about an hour and I get a text from dfs phone from my dd saying she got in trouble for texting me on the bus and the bus driver took her phone. I looked at her phone activity online and my text to her and her text back to me was the only activity on her phone that day. She keeps it off and in her locker during the school day.

I called the bus driver this morning on the number he put on the bus ticket she got for violating the rules and explained the situation and asked him if she would have asked permission if he would have permitted it. His response was no electronics, no exceptions.

I understand the rules but when you are dropping my child off at home more than two hours later than usual shouldn't we be notified in some way if our children can't text us from their cell? I got no call whatsoever from anyone involved with that school.
Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 12, 2014 at 12:52 PM
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angelachristine
by Platinum Member on Aug. 14, 2014 at 1:14 AM

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Zero tolerance policies are ignorant.

Quoting Anonymous: I'm just saying, there has to be rules, maybe if ur child would have said 'may I use my phone to text my mom I'll be late, mr whatever?' There's always a way. I think rules are important and if every case of 'yeah, but...' were listened to, there would never be rules to follow! By the way, u sound like a real peach to work with...

Quoting Anonymous: Right! Teach those darn kids not to get back to their parents when the parent is franticly trying to locate them. Who cares if a parent thinks their child has been abducted or worse! Only sanctimommys worry when their child hasn't arrived home from school 2 hours after they should have *sarcasm* Gotta follow them darn rules.

Quoting Anonymous: Rules. He was teaching them a lesson. I'm in favor of the driver! Enforce away!
Mireya9
by Bronze Member on Aug. 14, 2014 at 4:57 AM
Ohhhh lol sorry.. I'm 21 and couldn't figure that one out lol

Quoting Anonymous: Dear fiance

Quoting Mireya9: What's a df?? I could not figure it out
dfcinnamon
by on Aug. 15, 2014 at 7:40 PM

I would have somebody's head rolling.  I would go higher up than the idiots at the school.  You don't know what has happened to your child.  One day something is going to happen to the bus driver and one of the kids will have their phones.  They can call for help.  They should be accountable for what happened and a big apology for this situation.

knights98
by Member on Aug. 16, 2014 at 8:26 AM
My child is allowed to text on the bus. Sometimes in school as well, depending on the situation. I would flip out!!!!!
HotJerZMama
by on Aug. 17, 2014 at 8:07 PM
Lol yeah I would be livid too!

But you're right about the younger kids not having phones. I was just having a conversation with my son's father about when he should get one. He just turned 5 so he doesn't have one now but I wonder what the right age is.

Quoting Anonymous: Yeah. We had kids showing other kids porn. Parents were livid. Lol which I would be too and if I was the kids parents that was doing it..... well they just better be glad tjat I'm not. Lol


I agree there should be a system. For one a lot of kids especially young ones don't have phones.

Quoting HotJerZMama: Lol I feel naive... I forgot what you could get into on the internet. That's not such a bad rule, the bus should have a system for notifying parents when it's late and the kids can call their parents when they get home.

Quoting Anonymous: Kids were using them for inappropriate reasons.

Quoting HotJerZMama: But what is the reasoning for that rule? I get that the kids shouldn't use phones in class because they should be learning but what is the big deal if they use it on the bus?
Quoting Anonymous: Our schools buses have the no cell phone rule as well.
Quoting happynewyorker:

WOW!! That's Bleeped up!!


What kind of school bus company has a rule about cell phones being used on the bus??  What they don't want the kids video taping when the bus driver curses?? 


I'd make sure the school supervisor is around when I came by.  How do you find out where your child is when the school bus is late??


So, if you text or call or someone calls your daughter to let her know of an emergency her phone is taken away?? that's one Bleep Bleep bus company!!


Relax before you go.  Because knowing any women pissed off.  That supervisor is going to get an ear full.


Can you update the post. after you speak with this person. I'd love to hear the reasoning on this one.


Good luck!


 

Gwynyth
by Silver Member on Aug. 17, 2014 at 8:10 PM
He's way out of line!
mommyoftoddlers
by Bronze Member on Aug. 18, 2014 at 11:39 AM

I totally understand how hard that must had been but you did the right thing. By being upset it wouldn't have made a difference. I'm glad that things will be changed. 

Quoting Anonymous: Having a teenager sure is tough sometimes. I'm kind of ashamed to say that when I found out my dd hadn't been home hours after she should have been all rational thought left my mind and all I could think about was the worst case scenario. Thankfully the bus supervisor was extremely understanding and nice and I'm glad I went in there in a calm collected manner instead of flipping my shit. She understood my concerns and assured me that changes would be made to ensure no parent has to go through that again.
Quoting mommyoftoddlers: I agree with you. How the heck are you supposed to be informed then? Rules are rules but these are kids we are dealing with... Kids are a huge responsibility they should have someone relaying the information to parents. Report the bus driver and alert the supervisor. I'd demand some changes for emergency situations this considered being one.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 18, 2014 at 12:26 PM
Things are so much better now! My dd loves her new bus driver :) she even let's them listen to music as long as they don't disturb their neighbors. I'm glad I handled it how I did I got a lot further with staying calm and mature than I would have otherwise.

Quoting mommyoftoddlers:

I totally understand how hard that must had been but you did the right thing. By being upset it wouldn't have made a difference. I'm glad that things will be changed. 

Quoting Anonymous: Having a teenager sure is tough sometimes. I'm kind of ashamed to say that when I found out my dd hadn't been home hours after she should have been all rational thought left my mind and all I could think about was the worst case scenario.

Thankfully the bus supervisor was extremely understanding and nice and I'm glad I went in there in a calm collected manner instead of flipping my shit. She understood my concerns and assured me that changes would be made to ensure no parent has to go through that again.

Quoting mommyoftoddlers: I agree with you. How the heck are you supposed to be informed then? Rules are rules but these are kids we are dealing with... Kids are a huge responsibility they should have someone relaying the information to parents. Report the bus driver and alert the supervisor. I'd demand some changes for emergency situations this considered being one.

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