UPDATE***** We had a really long talk after our ds was asleep, I told him that he should trust me, and he says he does but doesnt trust my boss. Something just rubs him the wrong way I guess. I have to respect his intuition. I cant retell the whole conversation it was so long but basically I'm not quitting, I'm just going to work harder at maintaining the professionalism between my boss and I and dh is going to work on his jealousy. He is not opposed to counselling like some of you have suggested so thats an option in the future! wish me luck! Thanks for everyone's comments its been really helpful!