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Help me I hate porn I really do I watch it very rare with my d h during sex because he asks me too... I know it shouldnt be a big deal at all but it makes me uncomfortable. Well last night I went out for 3 hours with a few girlfriends I even found a sitter so dh could sleep since it was Thursday. Well what I came home to bothered me he had my curtains covered up with blankets to block anyone from seeing in and porn was stashed in the hall closet which wasn't there before. The problem I have is even when im sick on weekdays he will not stay up past 8pm to help me with our kids but since he was home alone he was able to stay up until midnight and watch porn... I know alot of you will say porns no big deal but it bothers me and it bothers me that he can stay up to watch it but if im sick fuck helping me hes going to bed. Please help me im pissed and I dont wanna blow this out of portion but I wanna talk to him about my feelings.
Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 15, 2014 at 11:02 AM
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by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 15, 2014 at 11:04 AM
Yeah I'm with you on that one I don't like dh watching porn either I know I may sound crazy but I feel like if he needs to watch it that I'm not doing my job as his wife and I've told him that so he doesn't watch it . Well that I know off lol . But I've told him hey if you want porn I'll make it for you and I have made him some crazy videos so that fixed that problem lol
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 15, 2014 at 11:08 AM
Well im glad im not alone maybe im not doing my job... idk but I dont like it and im sure he watches it but id prefer to not know about it and the first time I asked him if he was watching it he told me no so he lied... that made it worse.

Quoting Anonymous: Yeah I'm with you on that one I don't like dh watching porn either I know I may sound crazy but I feel like if he needs to watch it that I'm not doing my job as his wife and I've told him that so he doesn't watch it . Well that I know off lol . But I've told him hey if you want porn I'll make it for you and I have made him some crazy videos so that fixed that problem lol
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 15, 2014 at 11:08 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 15, 2014 at 11:11 AM
I know I hate it when they have to lie about it , I use to crazy bitch on my dh if he lied to me but I learned to control myself about it this way we can talk and agree on something that works for both of us and so that's when we came up with the Idea of me ( or us ) making our own videos . And that seemed to work . Maybe u should try it and see how it goes . I tell dh that I'll be anything he wants me to be and that gets him going .

Quoting Anonymous: Well im glad im not alone maybe im not doing my job... idk but I dont like it and im sure he watches it but id prefer to not know about it and the first time I asked him if he was watching it he told me no so he lied... that made it worse.

Quoting Anonymous: Yeah I'm with you on that one I don't like dh watching porn either I know I may sound crazy but I feel like if he needs to watch it that I'm not doing my job as his wife and I've told him that so he doesn't watch it . Well that I know off lol . But I've told him hey if you want porn I'll make it for you and I have made him some crazy videos so that fixed that problem lol
Cocomicah
by time lord on Aug. 15, 2014 at 11:11 AM
Sorry I'm on the other end of the spectrum. I probably watch more porn than my husband lol.. But I would suggest you discuss this over dinner maybe with a few drinks and some turned down emotions on your part. I know that's gonna be hard.. It would be best to just sit down and tell him how you feel, ask him why he does it, tell him it hurts you that he doesn't help you. The thrill of watching porn is different than sex. Now if he isn't having sex with you and only watching porn, you might want to go to counseling.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 15, 2014 at 11:15 AM
I wouldn't mind that idea. I may give it a try. I just dont like porn... and I have gone off when hes lied before and I found his stashes I just dont know how to bring this up without anger know what I mean.

Quoting Anonymous: I know I hate it when they have to lie about it , I use to crazy bitch on my dh if he lied to me but I learned to control myself about it this way we can talk and agree on something that works for both of us and so that's when we came up with the Idea of me ( or us ) making our own videos . And that seemed to work . Maybe u should try it and see how it goes . I tell dh that I'll be anything he wants me to be and that gets him going .

Quoting Anonymous: Well im glad im not alone maybe im not doing my job... idk but I dont like it and im sure he watches it but id prefer to not know about it and the first time I asked him if he was watching it he told me no so he lied... that made it worse.

Quoting Anonymous: Yeah I'm with you on that one I don't like dh watching porn either I know I may sound crazy but I feel like if he needs to watch it that I'm not doing my job as his wife and I've told him that so he doesn't watch it . Well that I know off lol . But I've told him hey if you want porn I'll make it for you and I have made him some crazy videos so that fixed that problem lol
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 15, 2014 at 11:19 AM
Our sex life is normal and the whole time I was out I kept texting him telling him that when I got home I was gonna blow his mind and what not so I dont understand why he had to have porn... and lie about it im gonna try and keep calm but im probably gonna fail

Quoting Cocomicah: Sorry I'm on the other end of the spectrum. I probably watch more porn than my husband lol.. But I would suggest you discuss this over dinner maybe with a few drinks and some turned down emotions on your part. I know that's gonna be hard.. It would be best to just sit down and tell him how you feel, ask him why he does it, tell him it hurts you that he doesn't help you. The thrill of watching porn is different than sex. Now if he isn't having sex with you and only watching porn, you might want to go to counseling.
LUvmYBOyS2009
by Bronze Member on Aug. 15, 2014 at 11:21 AM
I know exactly what you mean everytime it would come up in our conversation in the last I would be furious and go crazy lol . But I had to learn to keep myself come so that we can communicate

Quoting Anonymous: I wouldn't mind that idea. I may give it a try. I just dont like porn... and I have gone off when hes lied before and I found his stashes I just dont know how to bring this up without anger know what I mean.

Quoting Anonymous: I know I hate it when they have to lie about it , I use to crazy bitch on my dh if he lied to me but I learned to control myself about it this way we can talk and agree on something that works for both of us and so that's when we came up with the Idea of me ( or us ) making our own videos . And that seemed to work . Maybe u should try it and see how it goes . I tell dh that I'll be anything he wants me to be and that gets him going .

Quoting Anonymous: Well im glad im not alone maybe im not doing my job... idk but I dont like it and im sure he watches it but id prefer to not know about it and the first time I asked him if he was watching it he told me no so he lied... that made it worse.

Quoting Anonymous: Yeah I'm with you on that one I don't like dh watching porn either I know I may sound crazy but I feel like if he needs to watch it that I'm not doing my job as his wife and I've told him that so he doesn't watch it . Well that I know off lol . But I've told him hey if you want porn I'll make it for you and I have made him some crazy videos so that fixed that problem lol
KWilliams-0513
by Bronze Member on Aug. 15, 2014 at 11:21 AM
I understand how you feel completely. I mean me and my husband both watch it sometimes. But there are times when he says he is tired and has to go to bed, then I get up and catch him watching it. I would talk to him about it.
Cocomicah
by time lord on Aug. 15, 2014 at 11:24 AM
The lie would make me angry, but it's what most men do, when they know the woman will flip out over the porn. Maybe he just wanted to get ready, maybe he wanted to get the first nut out, so y'all could have sex longer. I know my hubs does that. He will watch porn early in the day when we have plan on having a long night. I know it's hard, but stop feeling insecure about the porn, and just really get into his head. If y'all still have a great sex life, it's not you, it's just something some people like to have. I understand that it still hurts you though. Sorry I wish I could give a better insight.

Quoting Anonymous: Our sex life is normal and the whole time I was out I kept texting him telling him that when I got home I was gonna blow his mind and what not so I dont understand why he had to have porn... and lie about it im gonna try and keep calm but im probably gonna fail

Quoting Cocomicah: Sorry I'm on the other end of the spectrum. I probably watch more porn than my husband lol.. But I would suggest you discuss this over dinner maybe with a few drinks and some turned down emotions on your part. I know that's gonna be hard.. It would be best to just sit down and tell him how you feel, ask him why he does it, tell him it hurts you that he doesn't help you. The thrill of watching porn is different than sex. Now if he isn't having sex with you and only watching porn, you might want to go to counseling.
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