Do I tell him I want a relationship...in the future?
For a month starting in July, he let his sons mother move In to his house in hopes of making the relationship work again. But all the while she was just using him for a place to stay (since her ex kicked her out) just to leave him for another guy when she got back on her feet. He found this out Friday and kicked her out. She was there from July 13 to August 15.
They never had sex as she told him her period was on the whole time...(lies of course) and told him on Friday before he kicked her out that she's single and they're in a "committed friendship".
The whole time she was there he made sure to keep in contact with me which i appreciated. As a single mom who's never had help from the father, I really admired him for wanting to make the relationship work for his son....even though it hurt to be put on the back burner for a while.
Anyway, I really care for this guy and I feel myself slowly falling in love with him. However now that she has come back and hurt him all over again, he is on this defensive "I'm scared to get hurt again" "it's only me and my son" point. He was telling me this while I'm laying in bed next to him after spending the night together for the first time in a month. :(
I'm not sure if I'm just a temporary person in his life until he finds someone he REALLY wants to be with. I'm not sure if he's just scared I'll hurt him.
But how do I (or should I even) tell him that I want a relationship in the future? That I want to be working toward something and not just a placeholder?
Or is telling him that pushy?