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Now THAT is a can of worms you don't want to open

Anonymous
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Does anyone have any clue what would happen if you gave men a choice in abortion?

Most of you probably don't have any clue what would ensue if a man and woman had rights to a fetus.

Let's say under the proposal I saw on here, (the post about men having to sign for an abortion) that the couple agrees on abortion.

The woman would go and have an abortion. That one was easy.

Now both want to have a baby, so the woman has the baby. That was also simple.

Next we get into legal issues when one person wants the baby and the other wants they abortion. Here is where this becomes complicated.

It's no longer her body, her choice. She can't get the abortion without his consent. But, there is no one way street here.

You guys have now repealed Roe vs Wade.

So let's start with she is adamant she is having a baby but he is adamant about abortion. They will end up going to court. Now the decision isn't in HER hands or in HIS hands either. The judge will make a ruling. He may force the woman to get the abortion if he feels that is in their best interest. Or he may tell the man that he now needs to pay 18 years of child support.

And let's look at the other side of this coin. She doesn't want to carry this pregnancy but he is insistent he wants her too. Again, in court that decision is ripped away from both parties. That judge may decide the guy has to sign so she can get that abortion. Or he may rule the girl has to continue the pregnancy.

Forcing a woman to do so, may also have dire consequences. She may get an illegal abortion. She may die from that or she may die from trying an abortion herself. She may commit suicide. Or she may do drugs, drink alcohol, smoke, never take prenatals, refuse to see a dr, etc.

And, do you truly want a judge to make these decisions for us? Because if a man has to sign for an abortion, he now has rights and may take it to court to get whatever he wants.

Let's not forget rapists and molesters getting the right to rape their victim again, by making a decision for their victim.
Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 17, 2014 at 5:17 PM
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AllofFive19
by Ruby Member on Aug. 17, 2014 at 5:21 PM
But it also isn't fair for the man to support a child he doesn't want.
nickysmom71
by Gold Member on Aug. 17, 2014 at 5:23 PM
I agree...men should never have the right over a woman's body...
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 17, 2014 at 5:23 PM
I always say a mans options are gone only after he has sex with a girl and doesn't use a condom and doesn't ensure she is also on a good form of birth control.

Keep it in your pants.
And/or
Talk with her about what she would do if she got preg.
And/or
Make sure you use a rubber.
And/or
Make sure she is on birth control too.

Plenty of options there!

Quoting AllofFive19: But it also isn't fair for the man to support a child he doesn't want.
702girly
by Gold Member on Aug. 17, 2014 at 5:24 PM


Quoting AllofFive19: But it also isn't fair for the man to support a child he doesn't want.

And that's equal to a woman completely losing rights over her own body to you? 

Misogyny at it's finest. God forbid a man have any negative consequences for his actions, just dump them all on the woman.

myempyreofdirt
by Ruby Member on Aug. 17, 2014 at 5:25 PM
That's true, but I don't think the situation can ever be fair. This is one area where men and women simply cannot be equal.

Quoting AllofFive19: But it also isn't fair for the man to support a child he doesn't want.
Sigmalade
by on Aug. 17, 2014 at 5:26 PM

As long as a man has the right to give up parental rights, abortion can be a woman's choice. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 17, 2014 at 5:26 PM
Woman has a right to choose, and so should the man. He should have the same time frame to sign over rights as she does to have an abortion. She can say she doesn't want the kid, why can't he? Not fair.
B1Bomber
by Ruby Member on Aug. 17, 2014 at 5:29 PM
How dare you suggest that boys and girls are inherently different?! Don't you know that all things must be exactly the same without exception?

Quoting myempyreofdirt: That's true, but I don't think the situation can ever be fair. This is one area where men and women simply cannot be equal.

Quoting AllofFive19: But it also isn't fair for the man to support a child he doesn't want.
sam12796
by Platinum Member on Aug. 17, 2014 at 5:29 PM
Then maybe the man should ask the woman if she got pregnant which we know having sex there is always the chance, would she abort it? If not then do t have sex with her.

Quoting AllofFive19: But it also isn't fair for the man to support a child he doesn't want.
Patti-Gee
by Gold Member on Aug. 17, 2014 at 5:30 PM


Quoting AllofFive19: But it also isn't fair for the man to support a child he doesn't want.

  Life has never been about being fair..

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