Long story short we hired dh's cousin whos 16 to watch our 4 and 5 yr old while we work, she ASKED US for the job, is generally really responsible so we gave it a go. About 6 months into it she starts not waking on time making us late for work, she sits and watches tv all day and refuses to play with the kids at all and wont take them outside, and makes them nap (we told her they were not taking them anymore). On to the story, I came home from work unexpectedly early to check on her (she had made dh late to work that morning because she refused to get up) and she is passed out on my couch, not light sleeping, or resting her eyes, she was dead to the world.I slammed the door and she didnt move. I yelled what the fuck?! And she woke up and a fight insued (not a physical one of course) I fired here yhen and there. Now dh's family is pissed at me saying I over-reacted, and when I checked on the kids, they were in the bedroom painting on the walls with fingerpaint! They dont see why im mad and think I should apologize!