I support our family. He works but half of his pay goes to alimony. We have a child together and another child that is mine from a previous relationship, both boys. I tried telling him I'm done having kids(I have an iud til I can afford the tubal). I make $38K a year and that is not enough to support a family of 5. He makes $23K a year. Used to make more at his last job but he screwed up and quit and no one from his job field would hire him so he had to settle for less. I told him we'd have to go back on food stamps again. And he said do what, other people do it. Other people are able to make it with 3 kids. Yeah only if they are either not on the system, make a ton more than both of us combined or simply abuse the system. I don't want that. I had to rush back to work after we had our little one cause his ex was suing him for back alimony. I was still recovering and it was either pay rent or pay ex and get kicked out into the street.
I refuse to go through that again. Fyi we planned our child cause we knew we'd never marry. He's an older man too so by the time the alimony is paid off, he'll be too old or dead.We're 20 years apart. Sorry ladies, finding a good man my age is impossible since a majority here just want sex or for you to look like Miley Cyrus.