It's only August why are you bugging me about thanksgiving already?
My aunt is a great lady, but she is a tad overly affectionate. We aren't close and never have been. We've never spent holidays together, even once. I don't even know her birthday or when her kids (my cousins) birthdays are.
A couple of years ago she reached out to me and my sister. She wanted to get to know us, which is great. The problem is, she's expecting more from this relationship than either of us really want. She keeps saying how bad she feels that we don't have a mom and that she wants to be our mom 0.o
My sister and I are 34, we don't need a psuedo-mom. An aunt would be nice.
It's just very awkward.
Last year she asked me to come to her house for thanksgiving AND christmas and was upset I didn't go. She lives very far, I don't drive and tbh I have my own traditions for the holidays.
Now she's started to pester about thankgiving. Every time I talk to her she says "don't forget about thanksgiving at my house ok? You have to come ok? You're coming right?"
Damn. It's only August! Let October's holidays happen in October lol.
Anyhow, what is the gentlest way (because she is rather sensitive) to say, thanks but we're not coming to your house for thanksgiving?