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I'm hearing my 2 year old daughter has signs of autism...

Anonymous
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My friend is a CNA and has worked with autisic clients. She says my daughter shows all the same signs that one of her clients showed at the same age. She turned 2 in July. She really is a hand full. I have an appointment on the 26th to ask about it. 

She hasn't slept through the night since she was 4 months old. Not once. She is awake 3 times on a good night. Sometimes it's 8. I'm exhausted. I have a 9 yr old that does cyberschool and she has really interfered with our progress. It's things like screaming for the pen he has or needing to write on the exact paper he is. The screaming, oh the screaming. I can't even take her to the mall because she yells to get out of the stroller. I take her for a walk outside and she does the same. I'm constantly having to entertain her. She doesn't play long independently. She runs often and telling her to stop or to come back doesn't phase her one bit. If I try to hold her hand she drops to the floor and screams no. It's just hard to explain. My son was VERY hyper as a toddler and this isn't the same. She's very moody. I just don't know what to think.  We were at a birthday party the other weekend and no other kids acted like her. 

I think she has sleep apnea so that's my main question when I see the Dr. She was exhaling loudly one night and I got to counting the seconds in between exhales for some dumb reason. Well they were all 4 seconds apart and then when I counted to 7 for another one, she woke up and screamed instead of exhaling. Maybe her behavior is from her not resting enough. She whines to lay down about 6 times before she actually takes a nap. She always insists on getting back up to play. She naps about 1 hr a day at 4pm. So it's a long crabby day. 

Any thoughts? 

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 21, 2014 at 2:03 PM
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by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 21, 2014 at 2:08 PM

I was irritated when she first mentioned it a while ago. I won't say the word autism to my doctor. That's up to them to diagnose. This same chick tried telling me to make the doctor put her on sleep meds. I was on a heart monitor until I was 2 because I stopped breathing so I told her absolutely no sleep meds for my kid. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 21, 2014 at 2:11 PM
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I would tell my "friend"  the certified ass wiper to mind her own and quit trying to diagnose children but I would be going to the doctor for the breathing thing for sure. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Aug. 21, 2014 at 2:16 PM

The sleep thing is concerning.

However, I had a child with ASD and none of those signs are really what he exhibited.

DS at 2 years old:

-Could not talk in full sentences. One or two words max.

-Could not play age appropriately (Still doesn't) with other kids.

-Had no sense of danger (Still doesn't)

-Was NOT independent at all. Clung to me like nobody's business.

-Had a severe fear of strangers to where he'd actually vomit if left alone with one.

-Would hyper focus a lot. As in getting so focused on an object nothing else was around him/he was completely and totally in his own zone

He at 5 still does a lot of these things. But what your DD is doing and what my son was doing at age 2 don't really seem similar.

A lot of 2 year olds DON'T know how to communicate, hence the throwing fits. What I would do is if she points and cries for an object, say "Let's use our words" and tell her the appropriate word, I.E. "Cup", "Pen", "Paper", etc.

She's still only 2 but that's just one thing you can really work with her on to stop such frustration fits.


mewebb82
by Gold Member on Aug. 21, 2014 at 2:17 PM
I would address the sleep issue first and see if her behavior changes. She probably is exhausted just like you are if she's waking up that much. Talk to her pedi about your concerns and they should be able to refer you to a specialist if they feel a more in depth sleep evaluation is needed. If you get that under control and she's still acting out, then I would ask for an evaluation but I wouldn't jump to that just yet.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Aug. 21, 2014 at 2:19 PM
Why would you treat a friend, who cares enough to mention a concern, like that?

Quoting Anonymous:

I would tell my "friend"  the certified ass wiper to mind her own and quit trying to diagnose children but I would be going to the doctor for the breathing thing for sure. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 21, 2014 at 2:19 PM

Yeah, I've taken Anatomy, Physiology and Pathology. I'll take her advice with a grain of salt. She called me once saying she felt a lump in the middle of her stomach when she laid on her side and that it HAD to be a baby. Her- "what else could it be? It has to be!" Me- "scar tissue from your c-section." 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Aug. 21, 2014 at 2:20 PM
That doesn't scream autism to me. Does she engage you, communicate with you, does she speak any words?
anotherguatmom
by Member on Aug. 21, 2014 at 2:22 PM

Sounds like sleep issues to me too.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Aug. 21, 2014 at 2:22 PM

Sound like a normal 2 year old to me. My daughter is not Autistic and she does all these things and shes almost 3.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 21, 2014 at 2:23 PM

Well honestly if you knew this friend you might say the same. haha. She isn't that far off. This friend is very over bearing. The type that has one kid but knew it ALL by the time he was 3 months. She is just trying to help me out though. She means well.

Quoting Anonymous: Why would you treat a friend, who cares enough to mention a concern, like that?
Quoting Anonymous:

I would tell my "friend"  the certified ass wiper to mind her own and quit trying to diagnose children but I would be going to the doctor for the breathing thing for sure. 


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