Please read this scenario and tell me what you think UPDATE: what do you think?
A man who's a father raises his daughter with his wife, the step mom. Has been this way for many years. Dad was always a single dad since the birth mom didn't want her and gave her to him. Step mom does everything for her step daughter, is her biggest cheerleader, a stand up advocate for her step daughter when it comes to school, a shoulder to cry on, a counselor at times, a mother.
The birth mom is clean for once and wants to have more contact with her daughter. Everyone's fine with that. Then, the birth mom is caught trying to sabotage all of the efforts of the parents who raise the girl. Telling her "you need to get better at lying to those stupid fucks so you can get away with more." And "I don't know why your dad is even with her, he should drop that zero." And "Next time she or him confiscates something I got you I should send aunt martha over there to whoop her ass."
Mind you, the mom had terminated her parental rights years ago, so her even seeing her daughter isn't required.
Just deal with it so that th kid can have a relationship with her mother? If she's trying to teach her daughter to be a thug like her she has business being around her? Or what do you think?
Also, what would you feel about the dad not reacting to Bio moms actions and disrespect toward the step mom?
So the husband and I discussed it and he decided that if her mom truly wants to see her she will have to do it on strict terms. So instead of SD going and visiting over there she will have to find it in herself to come here to have an outing with sd, that will be supervised by the grandma. If they can't make that work then so be it.