My sil can't get pregnant due to her weight. Her and her husband have been trying to have a family for more than 5 years. Her doctor told her that unless she lost at least 50 to 100 pounds getting pregnant would be nearly impossible and carrying the baby to viability would be even more unlikely. After that they went to an adoption agency where they were told that because of her weight and health issues agency would. They went to several other agencies who told them the same thing. But when you think about it it kinda makes sense. With her weight her life expectancy isnot nearly what the normal adults is. She found that most surrogacy agencies have similar policies not that they could afford a professional surrogate anyway. She asked me if I would be willing to surrogate for her using her egg and her dh sperm. I said no and said that i couldnt emotionally handle it, i didnt mention that i feel that if she cant and ake care of her own health she has no business having a child to take care of. she went all dramatic on me. She said that since she has gone through the heartbreak of not being able to have a child and Since my helping her would end that heartbreak I should be willing to do this even if it does hurt. She kept crying that she wants a child and no one will help her and how mean I am and how unfair the agencies are. Finally, I had just had it. I told her that if she wanted a baby so badly she should be willing to lose the weight to do it. she stormed out of my house and within 20 minutes my mother in law is calling me screaming about what a bitch I am. I told her she needs to watch her tone because unless her daughter put down the cheeseburgers and gets on a treadmill I'm the mother of Her only grandchildren.
by the way I'm sure there are going to be people who will reply that she might have a health issue that is causing this weight. That is not the case her doctor has ran every test in the book and She has been to several doctors trying to find someone who will tell her this isn't her fault. Every single one of them told her that if she would eat decently and workout even moderately she would lose enough weight to have a child