I confess I can't stand the attitude of my TTC peers
DF and I have been TTC for 6 years and I have found comfort (only a little, but still comfort) in forums like these. It's a difficult thing to go through. It's harder on me than DF. He is there for me as much as he can be, but I really like having a community of people to talk to that actually know what I am going through firsthand. The false hope, the miscarriages, etc.
But there is this general sense of ridiculous entitlement, and an everything-needs-to-be-about-my-TTC attitude within that community. I am a member of the TTC group on here, as well as other ones throughout the web and on facebook, so I would say that I have a wealth of experience on the subject. Literally on every single one of the groups, the aforementioned attitude is present, and the majority.
I watch women complain about the most petty and trivial things. It's always something about how something somebody said about kids, or pregnancy, or whatever, has made them feel so bad, and that person is the worst person in the world. For a SIMPLE comment that wouldn't bother anybody else that's not TTC. It could be something as simple as "Wow, had a rough day with my kids. Some days I wish I didn't choose to have 3!!" Obviously somebody would mean that as a joke. But apparently, when you are TTC, you are entitled to be an overly sensitive bitch to everybody else in the world. And this is just 1 example of many different offenses that stem from this attitude.
I want to shake these women, and tell them "Yes, YOU have this issue. The rest of the world has their OWN issues, too!! You are NOT special because you can't have a baby!!!!! The rules and expectations that apply to everybody else still apply to you for fucks sakes!! THE WORLD DOESN'T REVOLVE AROUND YOU AND YOUR FUCKING UTERUS."
Not being able to conceive is a painful thing, but that doesn't give you the right to take it out on everybody else. I have even tried to talk to some women with these attitudes, in a calm and understanding way, only to receive backlash. It's a shame.