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Can a happily married woman still be attracted to someone else???

Anonymous
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I have been happily married to my dh for 18 years and our sex life is still incredible! He still knows how to melt my butter if you get my drift?! good

But, there is a guy that works at a store by my house that is just beyond sexy...and it's just oozing out of his pores! He is so fuckin hot!! I use to just put on flips and throw my hair in a messy bun to go shopping and now I find myself fixing my hair, putting on makeup and wearing something sexy. I know! It's terrible. I don't even do that for my own dh...well now I guess I sortof do by default since I am usually still dolled up by the time he gets home. But, this sexy cup of creamy coffee flirts with me. At first, I thought he was just being nice and I honestly didn't see it as anything more, but he purposely comes over to me to see how I am doing, to see if I need anything or any help finding something knowing I know this store with my eyes closed. He has had conversations with me about my car-I have a 2014 Mustang Cobra and he told me that a sexy woman makes a sexy car and winked at me. I swear when he comes near me, my who who starts to throb! He makes me very horny and my poor dh...even as sexy as he still is, I can't seem to get this gorgeous guy out of my mind especially when I am making love with my dh. I am 42 and I am too fucking old to be going through some high school crush!!!! WTF is wrong with me?? Is this some mid life crisis????

BTW, I would never cheat on my dh. I just have these fantasies and I guess I am role playing with my dh with sexy man in my mind? AGHHH!!


ADDITIONAL:

Also, I need to add this. I have lost a LOT of weight! I was close to 175 lbs and I am only 5'2". I climbed that scale faster than a monkey climbs a tree. I went from a healthy weight of 120 to 175 in less than 7 months. I felt so ugly and unattractive that I literally just stopped doing anything with my appearance. I hated my body and felt life slipping by me because I was too embarrassed to go and do anything. My bff introduced me to her doctor and he helped me lose weight by eating right, exercise and I did start out on a diet pill to get started and then came off it after I had lost 20 lbs. I did the rest on my own and now I am down to 128lb. I feel sexy again and I think his flirting with me kinda gave me a ego boost. It's one thing to hear from my dh how sexy I look, it feels good to hear it, but it's another kind of feeling to hear it from a complete stranger. 


Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:50 AM
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caito
by Ruby Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:52 AM
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You don't stop being human when you get married. As long as it stays strictly a fantasy there's no harm done.

lucky2Beeme
by Ruby Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:53 AM
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Would you do it if DH could see or hear you ? Would you be OK if it was DH and a cute girl working at the store ?  If not stop it.

JackAttacks
by Angel on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:54 AM
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 first things first, at 42 you can no longer call it a hoo hoo.

secondly, harmless flirting is normal human behavior. we all do it. its only when that flirting goes too far or leads to something else that it becomes a problem. if it feels wrong then it probably is.

momto2boys973
by Ruby Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:54 AM
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I certainly think you can find other people attractive, even if you're happily married. I personally think that flirting or making yourself attractive for another person is crossing a line and a dangerous thing to do.
mewebb82
by Platinum Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:54 AM
Of course you can still be attracted to someone else. You are still human. It's just a matter of not acting on that attraction.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:54 AM
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No.

You are cheating on your husband in your mind.

quickbooksworm
by Ruby Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:54 AM
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You're married, not dead. Don't let it go anywhere though.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:55 AM

Of course. If you think your dh (or pretty much any man) wouldn't think some 20 year old swimsuit model for instance that worked with them was hot your kidding yourself.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:55 AM

I feel kind of guilty about this. My dh and I had some marital issues around our 7th year with his porn addiction. I almost left him over it and now I feel like a hypocrite!

KristaP13
by Silver Member on Aug. 29, 2014 at 8:55 AM

There's nothing wrong with attraction, but it goes a little past that once there's flirting and fantasies during sex with your husband. 

I guess as long as it doesn't affect your marriage, you said you wouldn't cheat, so... whatever works..lol


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