"How dare you deny access? He is a wonderful father and your just a child support collecting slut. He loves those children. We know you abuse and don't want them. They are a paycheck! I'm filling out paperwork right now so we can obtain custody from your worthless ass!"
I'm sitting here like Who the heck are you? So I did some fb creeping to find it's my xh's wife. My response?
Go ahead and file. See you in court.
What else am I suppose to say. I can argue till I'm blue in the face that she's been given the wrong information. But arguing will get me nowhere. The kids are not abused, they are well loved. And I own my own business and my dh works. So the child support xh doesn't pay is not our only income. He hasn't called or anything since he walked out. Can't deny access to someone who shows no interest. Kwim?
So I'm sure if they file, court should be easy!
But heck I'm sure a woman who has never met my kids and prob never will knows what's best.
Eta: my xh at the divorce hearing stating he had intentions of terminating his rights. When texted about the kids his replies are not my kids anymore not my problem. Neither one of is was hurt by the divorce nor him walking out early last year. He was a habitual cheater and the marriage was long gone a year in. I just fought to save it for another year before giving up. We were married 3 years. My husband has been in the picture since about this time last year. Xh hasn't seen the kids since feb of last year. So well over a year. My kids call dh dad on their own accord. And def since he's the only dad my dd knows (18 months) I'm not going to redirect or correct them because some idiot who helped create them and has no interest in them *might* pop up one day. I don't understand how you ladies could be like oh you need to hold out for their *real* dad. He's not a real dad. He's a biological parent. He's been given plenty of chances and I've contacted him dozens of times. He just has no interest. Can't force someone to have interest who doesn't want it.
And my xh hasn't even met dd. he walked out in feb she was born in march. He knows she's alive and his. Just has never met her.
Update: I texted xh on Tuesday and finally here on Friday got a response.
"You know better then to ask if I want a damn visit. Fuck no! Not my problem they are yours."
So I'm guessing the threat of custody is sm. btw he gets visits per the divorce decree he just never wants to see the kids.