Sorry BM there are some things you don't get a say in.
- I don't let them eat in my car. Sorry. It's new and they are kids and they are messy. They are allowed to have water and dry snacks if we go on a long trip (chips, crackers etc.) I don't care if you tell them they can. They can't.
- I drop them off too early at school. Sorry. I have four kids to drop off at four different schools. If you don't like my drop off times please feel free to give me a hand. I drop off at 725 for jr high, 745 for elementary and barely get my son to high school by 8. And then 820 for my preschooler
- we give them an allowance and she doesn't so we shouldn't. Sorry we put an allowance system in for all the kids. To teach them the value of a dollar and responsibility.
- I pack the daughter a lunch every day she's with us if she doesn't want what's on the menu the next day. And it's unacceptable because she doesn't want to use her food since we are responsible for school lunches so she won't pack lunches. They have a school lunch account that we are responsible for per the CO we pay for school lunches.
- inappropriate clothing. My SO is a little strict when it comes to what his 13 year old daughter wears. Since I'm the one that sees her last before she goes to school of course I am the one that enforces it the most. Its unacceptable to her that I tell her daughter what she can wear.
-school volunteering since I am a sahm I often volunteer for things at school. Not in the classrooms but to help with food drives, driving, donating whatever. I do it for all the kids schools. I won't be telling the kids no if they come to me and ask me to help their school.
There are plenty more.
Am I an asshole that's overstepping or is she just nit picky??
Ok here's another
- no cooking meal planning or teaching other such household things. The 13 year old daughter is always in the kitchen with me. She loves it. We make the weekly meal plan for the family and do the grocery shopping. I've also started teaching her how to budget and what not. She gets extra allowance for her extra help. I've also started making her her own cookbook with our family's favorite dishes.
Few things: she is not a single mom. She has and SO that survives with and they have a child. And she does work part time.