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Mom and MIL are arguing about

Anonymous
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Whos going to stay here and help with the baby after I give birth. My dilemma is that I really want my mom here because shes my mom. But she will make extra work for me and Im pretty sure I will be already overwhelmed taking care of my first newborn and dh is pretty useless when it comes to chores.
MIL would be a huge help and already has been. Only issue being shes not my blood mom.


Should be obvious and it kind of is but...
Posted by Anonymous on Oct. 15, 2014 at 12:58 PM
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PerfectRelapse
by Silver Member on Oct. 15, 2014 at 12:59 PM
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Hand them foam swords and say fight to the death!!!! Winner gets to stay here.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 15, 2014 at 1:01 PM
Why can't they take turns? Do they live in the same town as you?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 15, 2014 at 1:02 PM

Why do you need help?

nattyleilani
by Silver Member on Oct. 15, 2014 at 1:02 PM

You ask whomever you think would be the most help. Personally, I didn't need help after any of my kids, but that's just me.

Amberleigh81
by Silver Member on Oct. 15, 2014 at 1:02 PM
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I didn't want anyone around so I could bond with my baby.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Oct. 15, 2014 at 1:03 PM
Unless they would both need to stay with you then I would just have them split the time. Neither my mother nor mil have ever been interested in helping me with the babies so I haven't had this problem.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 15, 2014 at 1:03 PM
Both would need to fly here

Quoting Anonymous 2: Why can't they take turns? Do they live in the same town as you?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Oct. 15, 2014 at 1:04 PM
Im scared as all hell. Ive had NO experience with kids under 10.

Quoting Anonymous 3:

Why do you need help?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 15, 2014 at 1:06 PM

Oh, it's your first?  Yeah...you will probably want either Mom out ASAP :)  Can they each come a few days and then leave?

Quoting Anonymous 1: Im scared as all hell. Ive had NO experience with kids under 10.
Quoting Anonymous 3:

Why do you need help?


DensHag
by Ruby Member on Oct. 15, 2014 at 1:06 PM
You and DH need to take an infant care class and tell both Moms that they are welcome to visit but you and Dad will be taking care if YOUR baby. And you and DH figure things out.
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