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Sorry, no sympathy here from me...

Anonymous
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back when i was losing my mobility, and function to walk, a 'friend' of mine had the nerve to say, 'well, things could be worse'..no words of encouragement, nothing at all....now HE is complaining about how he can't walk, and blah blah blah and how he needs everyone's support now.......sorry, no sympathy here.  In order to get it, you have to give it, too...

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 4, 2014 at 8:13 AM
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TheRingmaster
by on Nov. 4, 2014 at 8:15 AM
Weird.... why cant he walk?
Sorry he was cruel. But you shouldn't be cruel also. Very counterproductive
bleumonster
by Emerald Member on Nov. 4, 2014 at 8:16 AM
What goes around, comes around.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Nov. 4, 2014 at 8:17 AM

...good for you?

CABZS
by Sapphire Member on Nov. 4, 2014 at 8:17 AM
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Many say "things could be worse" as a way to be encouraging bc they don't know what else to say. So he may have tried to be supportive just not the way you wanted.

Even if he wasn't, the "you weren't so I won't either" attitude is childish.
holyhoola
by on Nov. 4, 2014 at 8:20 AM
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That's sad, you both seem like terrible" friends"
who-am-I-2014
by on Nov. 4, 2014 at 8:23 AM

prayers for you both, everyone needs help sometimes

LesleyJane
by on Nov. 4, 2014 at 8:23 AM
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I agree with you. Would never want friends like them.

Quoting holyhoola: That's sad, you both seem like terrible" friends"
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Nov. 4, 2014 at 12:26 PM
What I find sad is a lack of understanding. Many who say "it could be worse" mean well typically. They say it thinking it is a positive thing to say when in truth yes things could be worse but saying it isn't always helpful.

How do we know he wasn't trying to be supportive? I suffer from anxiety and a friend always tried to tell me things could be worse thinking she was helping until I told her it didn't really help and sometimes made me feel worse. She was very apologetic.

He could've been trying to be a good friend while OP is just behaving like a child.

Quoting LesleyJane: I agree with you. Would never want friends like them.

Quoting holyhoola: That's sad, you both seem like terrible" friends"
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