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I don't want to go to my in-laws for Thanksgiving….. What do I do??

Anonymous
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So my dh's step dad and mom want us to go up there to them for Thanksgiving. They live about 4 hours away. They want him to help fix their truck, and do Thanksgiving, but here are a few of my problems. I will be about 35 weeks pregnant by then, and I already do weekly visits to my ob and a specialist, so twice a week, because I have a lot more amniotic fluid, and measuring 3-4 weeks ahead at each appoinment. They are nervous about preterm labor, and my cord dropping down if my water breaks, which isn't good for baby! I don't want to go into labor in Detroit, Michigan away from my doctors!!! 

Second reason: They are gross. Their house is cluttered, his step dad smells like B.O. and they hardly clean and I'm suppose to eat dinner there? Not to mention dog hair galore, which just grosses me out. To top it off, his step dad smokes non-stop in the house, so it stinks!!!!

Third Reason: My dh and his brother don't get along. His brother always has a rude comment to say, and eventually my husband can't take it anymore and they fight. His brother, 20 and wife 19, and daughter live with them, and neither of them work, so they are constantly around eachother while we are there. This causes them to fight, and my dh tries to keep his composure, but his brother just harps away. I don't want to have to deal with this on Thanksgiving. We said for his parents to come here but they don't have the money. My main concern is my health and the baby's. But I'm afraid my husband will get upset if I tell him I don't want to go. What should I do? DO I have valid reasons for not wanting to attend, or should I just suck it up??

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 4, 2014 at 1:18 PM
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mama2ameira
by captain underpants on Nov. 4, 2014 at 1:20 PM
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Don't go. Your reasons are valid to me.
Bailey1116
by Gold Member on Nov. 4, 2014 at 1:32 PM
I wouldn't want to go either :(
summerlove3677
by on Nov. 4, 2014 at 1:36 PM
I won't go and your medical reasons are valid
Firewoman33
by Gold Member on Nov. 4, 2014 at 1:38 PM
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You're Dr will write you a note, I'm sure. I wouldn't go either for pregnancy reasons alone.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 4, 2014 at 1:40 PM
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Quoting Firewoman33: You're Dr will write you a note, I'm sure. I wouldn't go either for pregnancy reasons alone.

I didn't even think to ask him to write a note!!! I have an appointment tomorrow, I'm going to talk to him about it!!!

MrsViau
by PinkGiraffe on Nov. 4, 2014 at 1:40 PM
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Then don't go. You have the choice to go or not, if you don't want to go then don't. Tell them you aren't coming and find something else to do or make a small dinner for you and DH at home. Just the 2 of you :)
Danesmommy1
by Grammar Enthusiast on Nov. 4, 2014 at 1:41 PM
So don't go. Blame it on the pregnancy.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Nov. 4, 2014 at 1:42 PM

You have good reasons for not going,but you really don't need a reason,other than you just don't want to.

I can't help but wonder why on earth your husband wants to go,from what you said about his family.I sure wouldn't want to deal with that crap.He should stay home with you.What if you go into labor while he's 4 hours away?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 4, 2014 at 1:42 PM


Quoting MrsViau: Then don't go. You have the choice to go or not, if you don't want to go then don't. Tell them you aren't coming and find something else to do or make a small dinner for you and DH at home. Just the 2 of you :)

The thing is, I think my dh wants to go to help with their truck and stuff, so I don't want him to be upset with me, if I tell him I don't want to go ....

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 4, 2014 at 1:43 PM


Quoting Anonymous 2:

You have good reasons for not going,but you really don't need a reason,other than you just don't want to.

I can't help but wonder why on earth your husband wants to go,from what you said about his family.I sure wouldn't want to deal with that crap.He should stay home with you.What if you go into labor while he's 4 hours away?

I think it's just because of his mom. They treat her like crap, so he does things for her to make her happy, but that is true, if I do go into labor and he's four hours away, he may not make it back in time!

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