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Entitled MIL? UPDATE

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so the other day, mil called dh and asked him to ask me to add her on facebook, so dh and i talked for quite awhile and i said that i just didn't feel comfortable having contact with her until she acknowledges the issues between her and i and that we should both talk them out. and so i also told dh that i have tried calmly and in every respectable manner i have thought of, to try and sort out these issues but she just gets belligerent and refuses to talk about them.

so dh insisted that he try and talk to MIL about these issues, so he calls her up and says exactly "hey mom, yeah im doing fine (she  asked), um, (my name) is not comfortable with adding you on facebook" she asks why, and he replies, "well there are still some feelings that she wants to talk about like feeling betrayed..." and that's as far as he got before she said " that's fucking bullshit, she needs to grow up and get the fuck over it" and that she should be on my facebook because apprently its hurtful to have to see pictures of my daughter through her brother (dh's uncle), when her daughter in law should put her on her facebook.... and then she hung up on dh.

my mil has done a lot of hurtful things, and said a lot of hurtful things to me and will not listen to reason, so i don't keep in contact with her, what dh's relationship with her is his business and his decision, not mine. if he wants to have a relationship that's his choice, and i will support him. and now he's pissed at her because of the fact of how she spoke of me and hung up on him.. advice?


UPDATE: so dh has decided to talk to her face to face in may when she comes down to visit, but doesn't want to talk to her until then, he's kept her on his facebook, and has not blocked her from his phone like i have, and all this is his decision, personally i think he should write her a letter to stand up to her but that wouldn't do any good, i'd like to tell her what she did was wrong and that as his wife, i will not tolerate my husband to be disrespected like that and that if she continues with her actions and attitudes, we won't have her in our lives and that of our childrens lives either... what do u all think?

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 12, 2014 at 1:40 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 12, 2014 at 1:42 AM

BUMP!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Dec. 12, 2014 at 1:45 AM
I got nothing i'm sorry
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Dec. 12, 2014 at 1:45 AM
Hard to say since I have no idea what she might have done for all I know she's right and you're being a baby.
handy0318
by Ruby Member on Dec. 12, 2014 at 1:48 AM

Give an example of one hurtful thing she has done and one hurtful thing she has said and one example of her not listening to reason....

It would help put things in perspective so I can offer advice.

IamMex11
by JorgematoTM on Dec. 12, 2014 at 1:51 AM
Shes not entitled she's toxic
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Dec. 12, 2014 at 1:53 AM

I may be in the minority. But I feel if MIL won't even have a simple conversation with you, or her own ds, about how you feel, then being involved with you or your child must not be that important. Screaming at her ds and hanging up on him is completely childish.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 12, 2014 at 1:54 AM

She has told me im an addict and an enabler on a situation in which i had no control over, has forced me to take medication or call cps saying im unstable even though doctors' orders were "at the patient's discretion, he/she may stop taking medication when they feel it is no longer necesscary", and as a result, refused to leave my home, which prompted me in calling the police to have her escorted off the premises. and if anyone, including her "perfect daughter" trys to call her out on her bullshit, she refuses to listen, involves the whole family and then we become the bad guys and  she apprently is never wrong

Quoting handy0318:

Give an example of one hurtful thing she has done and one hurtful thing she has said and one example of her not listening to reason....

It would help put things in perspective so I can offer advice.


JenGo
by Gold Member on Dec. 12, 2014 at 1:57 AM
Well, that isn't a lot of information, but I would have issues with say one who spoke to their son like that.
Honestly, I would say that you have said your bit and now it is up to your MIL if she wants to have a relationship with you.
You may be effecting your husband's relationship with his mother without really realizing it. This could be good thing. He is choosing you and respect for you over his mother.
Amandatoo
by Bronze Member on Dec. 12, 2014 at 1:58 AM

This

Quoting handy0318:

Give an example of one hurtful thing she has done and one hurtful thing she has said and one example of her not listening to reason....

It would help put things in perspective so I can offer advice.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 12, 2014 at 1:58 AM

BUMP!

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