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dh hit me in front of ds

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Dh has cheated on me in the past and has made me feel insecure in the relationship. He always checks out other women and never really makes me feel beautiful or good about myself. Anyway.. We were watching Beverly hills pawn and I started to feel a little down since the girls on their are like super hot with the nicest bodies imaginable. I asked him if we could watch something else and he said no and that i need to get over my insecurities. I was really annoyed at this point.. I wasnt saying anything to him. Just ignoring. He got really upset and started yelling at me.. And then he hit my arm which then caused me to drop our 13 month old ds. He fell on the couch since that's where I was sitting. I placed him on the floor to play with his toys and then dh continued to scold me and poke my face. He grabbed my face and neck at one point. I got so upset and in self defense I kicked his leg and told him to leave me alone and then he punched me in my face. Our 3 year old ds saw it and started crying. I walked in a different room and took both boys with me. I had to comfort my ds and explain to him that everything is ok. And what daddy did wasnt nice..
Dh says that he knows he shouldn't hit a woman but he said i angered him that bad and I shouldn't get so jealous. I kind of feel like its my fault, like I shouldn't be so annoying and insecure. But what really hurts is that we've agreed to try and work on things. He would do his best to earn my trust again and to reassure me whenever I need it and i said I would try and be better when it comes to trusting him. We even went to counseling for a few months and it was made very clear that we needed to work together. Was I wrong for shutting down over a TV show?? Yes. Maybe I shouldn't have got so bent out of shape but he probably couldve handled it better and he definitely didn't have to hit me. I understand that I annoyed the crap out of him but still. Anyway... Im leaving him and getting a divorce for many reasons. I can't live this way.. Constantly questioning my value and worth because of the things hes done. Im tired of being insecure and getting jealous when we go out and are around a ton of attractive women that he so obviously checks out in front of me. Im tired of feeling I have to compete with the women in the porn movies. Im tired of being miserable and in return, causing him to be miserable. This is not the life for me. And lastly... I don't want the boys exposed to his impulsive and irrational behaviour. I don't want my boys to think its ok to hurt someone just because your are angry.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 20, 2015 at 10:48 PM
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 20, 2015 at 10:49 PM
by Ruby Member on Jan. 20, 2015 at 10:50 PM
You need to get your kids out of this situation.
by Member on Jan. 20, 2015 at 10:51 PM
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Go file a report with the cops for DV. This isnt a guy you want to have custody if your kids every other weekend
by on Jan. 20, 2015 at 10:52 PM
Call the fucking cops. But then again, you hit him too so you'll both be arrested and the kids will be taken.

My mom stayed with my dad who hot her for 14 years... you will ruin your chikdren if you stay with him. Woman up and move out.
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 20, 2015 at 10:52 PM


by Gold Member on Jan. 20, 2015 at 10:52 PM

1 you weren't wrong if he wanted to earn your trust back hitting you isn't the way neither is a dumb tv are his WIFE the mother of his children, a tv show should NEVER come over you.

not to mention that your child saw....i would sit down and talk to him about it. i honestly don't know what i would do if i was you...but its not your fault at all

by Chemistry cat on Jan. 20, 2015 at 10:52 PM

I hope you called the police.  You need a police report on file, especially in a divorce situation as that can have ramifications for custody and visitation.

Good luck.

by Gold Member on Jan. 20, 2015 at 10:52 PM
Leave. Take your babies and get out.
by Gold Member on Jan. 20, 2015 at 10:53 PM
Wow I'm so sorry you are going through this, however I'm glad that you have come to the conclusion and relization that you need to leave this man he will only get worse. This is not a healthy situation for you or your children. Good luck in your future!
by on Jan. 20, 2015 at 10:53 PM
Ummm.... please call the police.
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