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I feel sad for these kids

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I recently joined the local YMCA and I've been going frequently.  As a result, I'm finding myself around more kids than usual.  I also have a 5 month old baby.  I don't know if it is the area we are now living in or if he really is just a good lookin' baby, but everyone wants his attention.  I'll be in the grocery store and people will talk to him to make him smile, reach out and let him hold their finger, and I've even had someone offer to hold him while he was crying and I was trying to bag my groceries.  I'm not used to it, so it makes me the slightest bit uncomfortable, but he's a baby and I totally understand the appeal.

Anyway, kids are even more drawn to him than the adults.  The one thing I really remember from my childhood was how much I loved babies and how very special it was when someone let me interact with their baby.  Because of that, I will never discourage a child from showing interest in my baby.

In the past week I've had two separate instances where a child's grown up basically came up and shooed them away.  The first time, we were in the pool.  A young boy took a special interest and his group of friends joined in.  Only the young boy was touching, but they all were trying to get his attention and make him smile.  I was sitting there smiling nice and big while they were interacting with him.  Then, a woman who looked to be his grandmother came over and snapped at him.  His face fell and the entire group kind of dispursed.  Then today we were at the family play room and a little girl came up telling me how cute he was.  He reached his hand out to her and she gave him her finger and was talking to him making him smile.  Once again, a woman (I think it was a group from the Y's childcare center because it was raining today) told her not to touch the baby.  Her face fell and she ran off to play elsewhere and never came back over to him.

So, what is the big deal?  I was smiling.  Broad ear to ear, genuinely happy smile with all of these children.  They weren't doing anything wrong.  I don't understand why, if the adult thought there was a problem, they couldn't ask me "Did you give them the ok to touch your baby?" or just take the moment to say to the kid, "Remember to make sure it is ok with the mom before you touch the baby."  Had they done so, I could have let them know that everything was fine and all of us would have stayed happy.  Instead, the kids were clearly disappointed, I felt sad for the kids, and DS is left wondering where everyone went.

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 10, 2015 at 1:51 AM
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by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 10, 2015 at 1:55 AM
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I used to say to the parent, that's ok, she loves older children and the 2 kids interacting is good for both of them. I hope you'll let your child stay for a while.

SissyAnn141
by Platinum Member on Apr. 10, 2015 at 2:04 AM

         Well there is nothing you can do about today.

       If this should happen agian, you know to say something.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 10, 2015 at 2:05 AM

That's a great response.  I just figure that people should be able to read body language.  An adult should be able to tell when the mother is simply being polite to their child, but is uncomfortable.

The only time I've said something to a child about touching my baby was a few weeks ago.  I was dropping my son off late and this other kid was being escorted into the office.  He got excited, came over,  pet my sons head while commenting on how cute he was, then left to do whatever it was he'd come into the office to do.  I politely called him back and simply told him that while I have no issues with him touching my baby, not everyone is ok with it and that in the future he should ask.

Quoting Anonymous 2:

I used to say to the parent, that's ok, she loves older children and the 2 kids interacting is good for both of them. I hope you'll let your child stay for a while.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 10, 2015 at 6:41 PM

BUMP!

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