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Am I being insensitive?

Anonymous
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My future sister in law won't be coming to my baby shower because she had a miscarriage a few months ago.

I am kind of upset by this.

Obviously, there's nothing I can do about it and I am going to let it go.

She's supposed to be marrying my BIL 2 weeks before I'm due. My BIL has already mentioned to my DH that it is insensitive to talk about my pregnancy in front of them. Should I even go to the wedding? I don't want to flaunt my pregnant self around. Ugh

How would you feel?
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 10, 2015 at 5:39 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 10, 2015 at 5:41 PM
I think she needs counseling.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 10, 2015 at 5:46 PM
I've never suffered a loss like that so I don't want to undermine her grief, but I don't know how to react to her decision to boycott all things baby.



Quoting Anonymous 2: I think she needs counseling.
twinmommy27
by Ruby Member on Apr. 10, 2015 at 5:47 PM
How far along was she?
TresHijas111825
by Gold Member on Apr. 10, 2015 at 5:47 PM
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I can understand her not wanting to go to the baby shower but you bot going to your brothers wedding would be ridiculous.
MisteryMisery
by on Apr. 10, 2015 at 5:47 PM
I agree that she needs counseling.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 10, 2015 at 5:48 PM

Welcome to the age of , I am offended you can't be pregnant because I lost my baby..

Eh just Welcome to the age of I am offended, everyone change whatever I am offended by.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 10, 2015 at 5:49 PM
I have had 4 miscarriages. Last one was 8 yrs ago... Yet there are still sometimes it affects me. It is recent and she needs to grieve.
Also a baby shower is a lot different than seeing a pregnant woman
ilovemykids323
by on Apr. 10, 2015 at 5:50 PM

not going to the babyshower fine. i can understand that. but i'd still go to the wedding. is she not going to meet the baby when it's born either??? i mean seriously i had a miscarriage but i wouldn't expect people to hide pregnancies and babies from me.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 10, 2015 at 5:50 PM
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Yes I think you are. How would you feel if your baby died and someone invited you to a baby shower? For many women a miscarriage is just the same as their baby dying.

TediLee
by on Apr. 10, 2015 at 5:52 PM
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I wouldn't go because they said not to flaunt yourself. Just say you didn't feel good or something
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