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The Jehovah's Witness practice of disfellowshipping.

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Jehovah's Witnesses Disfellowshipping a Cruel Inhumane Practice 

Written by Mark Andrews, former JW.


I am disfellowshipped. I was disfellowshipped back in April 1995 for daring to ask of the organization many questions which were bothering me. I grew up in the JW's from birth - 3rd generation. In a very VERY strict JW family. My father of course was an elder in the local kingdom hall.

Since being disfellowshipped almost 20 years ago I have lost the relationship I had with my wife, my son, my father, my mother, my sister and her family, and all members of the extended physical family not to mention everyone I grew up with in the local congregation and further afield across the circuit.

Essentially on that day in April 1995 I was thrown out of the only world I knew and was familiar with into the big outside world which I knew next to nothing about. Following this experience for a number of years I went through absolute hell in my mind.

You cannot even begin to imagine the emotional pain this experience caused me all these years ago and to some extent still carries on to this day. Only other individuals who have been or are presently going through this experience will have any idea what the experience of living with being disfellowshipped actually feels like.

Although very well healed in many respects (time is a great healer) I still suffer daily emotionally because of the treatment still meted out to me by my Jehovah's Witness family who are still in 'the truth' (although by no means is it my truth these days). For me the JW 'religion' is one big fat lie of epic proportions, only the JW family cannot or refuse to see this reality for what it is.

Living with being disfellowshipped is like living a life long sentence with no light at the end of the tunnel. Although the JW family are still all alive, by not having anything to do with me, under threat of extreme punishment themselves provided by means of the organization to hold their loyalty to The Watchtower organization rather than to their direct family members essentially all meaningful contact with my family has been lost forever.

According to the Jehovah's Witnesses I am 'mentally diseased', a manipulative liar, an apostate, someone who is partaking at the table of demons and a follower and lover of Satan. This is exactly how they refer to me (and hundreds of thousands of other individuals in this situation) in public via their district conventions and in their Watchtower Bible and Tract Society publications. 

Under law both in the UK (religious hatred laws) and by charter at the United Nations I do have natural human rights and these laws and rights prohibit others from talking about me or referring to me in this manner. It is pure discrimination plain and simple.

If I called someone of a different nationality or color, if I called someone of a different sexual orientation or someone suffering a mental or physical disability 'mentally diseased' and went on record stating this publicly in the strongest language possible, quite rightly most people around the world would be outraged about such remarks.

Yet here we have a large group of people who are living under this life sentence every single day and for the most part the outside world including governments here in the west...they are doing very little about it. This inaction on their part I think is disgraceful. They should be doing a lot more to bring pressure on the corporation/charity commonly known as the Watchtower Bible and Tract Society / International Bible Students Association (Jehovah's Witnesses) to ensure this 'religion' does not treat other people in this manner. We all as individuals have legal rights under law. There is no escaping this fact.

Recently my JW parents celebrated their golden wedding anniversary. I did not even receive an invitation to attend because I am disfellowshipped.

Recently my JW niece was getting married. I did not even receive an invitation to my nieces wedding purely because I am disfellowshipped.

A couple of years ago an aunt of mine sadly died. She was disfellowshipped many years ago well before I was disfellowshipped. She and I used to keep in contact to encourage one another occasionally. Despite this, when it came to her funeral her two sons both elders in the JW faith, they both banned me from attending my aunts funeral and told me in no uncertain terms that I was not welcome. This despite the fact that they had treated their own mother as disfellowshipped for the best part of 35 years.

Worse when a non JW uncle died recently these two cousins did not attend their own uncle's funeral. Nor did my mother attend her own physical brothers funeral. I attended by myself in support of the family going through bereavement despite this being over 400 miles away.

The Jehovah's Witnesses are very keen to project this loving image to the rest of the world, to all outsiders, but when you know the truth about 'the truth' you realize just what a cruel inhumane organization this is.

It is an organization which rips peoples family lives apart.

It is an organization which causes the utmost dreadful misery to hundreds of thousands of people annually.

It is an organization which separates by force children from their parents and parents from their children.

It is an organization which rips apart the family ties between grandparents and their grandchildren and vice versa.

It is an organization which rips apart brothers from sisters and sisters from brothers.

It is an organization which demands total loyalty over and above giving loyalty to your family members.

Worse it is an organization which as a result of it's vile revolting practices has directly/indirectly caused significant numbers of individuals over the years to commit suicide because of the sense of loss and grief this organization has put these people through.

It is an organization which demands absolute loyalty, even going so far as to admonish parents to let their children die rather than accept a blood transfusion.

Now you tell me...

Does that sound like a loving organization to you?

Or does it sound like an organization which is extremely cruel and inhumane?

Make no mistake about it, this organization cares not for man made laws, they are a law unto themselves only and I think it's about time the Jehovah's Witnesses, the Watchtower Bible and Tract Society, the International Bible Students Association (all one and the same) are brought to account.

In a nutshell...

The Jehovah's Witnesses need to stop full stop murdering people spiritually, emotionally, psychologically and physically.


For many years I was tortured at the hands of The Watchtower spiritually, emotionally, psychologically and physically. From birth.  It was and is my God given right as a man in my own right to choose for myself which religion, if any, I wish to belong to. Blackmailing me, in essence saying, you can have the full relationship with your family back but only if you rejoin us and renounce your current beliefs is not acceptable to me.

The Watchtower Bible and Tract Society organization should NOT have this right over the lives of other people simply for disagreeing with their belief system in which matter I had no choice because I was born into the Jehovah's Witnesses 3rd generation.

Physically beaten as a child more times than I can remember (many times a week throughout all of my childhood) with father quoting scriptures to me just before he would belt the living daylights out of me to keep me 'on the narrow road leading to everlasting life' was a punishment directly advocated and encouraged by The Watchtower Society.

My father would often hit me so hard in private (and in public at the back of the kingdom hall) that he on more than one occasion actually hurt his own hand from hitting me so hard. Sometimes though not in public he would also hit me with a wooden stick which once or twice left blood red welts on the back of my young body. Other times he would boast in front of other members of the congregation at the kingdom hall (when I was under 10 years old) that when he held me by the wrist he could hit me so hard that my feet would leave the ground and I would spin around almost a full 360 degrees.

You cannot even begin to imagine the humiliation I felt as a child growing up under these conditions which emotional scarring still affects me massively to this day as I find it very difficult to get close or to feel safe around other people. It was not to put too fine a point on it an absolutely bloody awful childhood experience, all the while the black Armageddon blanket hanging over me. And believe you me I have only touched very lightly on this subject so far in this post. I could say a great deal more.

Disfellowshipping is a vile, revolting, cruel and inhumane practice. It cuts you off from your family. It drives wedges between family members. It is a coercive manipulative mind control technique to get the individual afflicted by said disfellowshipping to fall back in line according to all the dictates of the Watchtower Bible and Tract Society.

I believe without a shadow of doubt that it is about time the rest of the world and the powers that be in government started to recognize this problem and it's nigh time something was done about it.

The fact is for anyone who has been disfellowshipped (for whatever reason) there is very little help here on the outside of the Jehovah's Witnesses. This situation MUST change and the sooner the better lest we lose many more lives to suicide of which many lives have already been lost because of the psychological torture meted out to disfellowshipped individuals, which is exactly what it is as defined by the U.N. and human rights watch organizations and other government bodies.
Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 2, 2015 at 11:37 AM
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KendallsMommee
by Spoiled SAHM on Jun. 2, 2015 at 11:39 AM
Tldr.

Bump..
theosgirl45
by Platinum Member on Jun. 2, 2015 at 11:40 AM

My Dad and his wife were just recently reinstated.  She was disfellowshipped for having an affair and divorcing her husband.  She had the affair with my Dad(who was also married at the time).  My Dad wasn't a witness when the affair took place so they couldn't punish him for it.  But they did tell him after he became a member that he couldn't associate with her because she was disfellowshipped.  My Dad married her anyway and was punished as a result.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 2, 2015 at 11:40 AM
What you did except when you join an occult?
DarksMama
by Ruby Member on Jun. 2, 2015 at 11:43 AM
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You mean 'cult'. Lol

Quoting Anonymous 2: What you did except when you join an occult?
wulfeyes05
by Bigby Wolf on Jun. 2, 2015 at 11:44 AM

My husband left the cult when he was 18. He knew they were messed up. There was a woman in their church that came to them begging for help, told them she was having suicidal thoughts and that she was going to kill herself. They looked her in the eyes and told her to pray more. She killed herself. My MIL and SIL didn't come to our wedding because we are not JW. I love my MIL and SIL, but that really hurt my husband and my MIL says she still regrets it. She's still JW though. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 2, 2015 at 11:44 AM

A childhood friend of mine was disfellowshipped for marrying his wife, who was divorced from her first husband. She had believed that he had cheated, but there was no proof so according to the organization she wasnt free to marry, and so they were commiting adultry by getting married. He was completely disowned by his father, who put major pressure on his mother to do the same. So far as to go to the elders in their congregation with his "concerns" about her association with their son. The congregation actually told her that if she did not cut contact with him, that she would be disfellowshipped. A threat which she ignored, and which they did not end up following through with. The mother and father are now divorced and the mother is no longer a JW. None of the 6 children in the family are JWs either. 

Quoting theosgirl45:

My Dad and his wife were just recently reinstated.  She was disfellowshipped for having an affair and divorcing her husband.  She had the affair with my Dad(who was also married at the time).  My Dad wasn't a witness when the affair took place so they couldn't punish him for it.  But they did tell him after he became a member that he couldn't associate with her because she was disfellowshipped.  My Dad married her anyway and was punished as a result.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 2, 2015 at 11:47 AM

I was raised as a JW, and i could never wrap my mind around disfellowshipping. I could never shun a person. I knew i was supposed to, but i couldn't and wouldn't do it. I didn't realize just what those who are disfellowshipped go through until my friend was disfellowshipped. It was so bad, he was seriously suicidal for a very long time. His entire family was prepared for him to kill himself. Finally his mother stood up for their relationship and broke away from the influence of her husband, and stopped pushing him away. He is much better with his mom and brothers and sister to support him.

Quoting wulfeyes05:

My husband left the cult when he was 18. He knew they were messed up. There was a woman in their church that came to them begging for help, told them she was having suicidal thoughts and that she was going to kill herself. They looked her in the eyes and told her to pray more. She killed herself. My MIL and SIL didn't come to our wedding because we are not JW. I love my MIL and SIL, but that really hurt my husband and my MIL says she still regrets it. She's still JW though. 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 2, 2015 at 11:47 AM
Ok grammar nazi

Quoting DarksMama: You mean 'cult'. Lol

Quoting Anonymous 2: What you did except when you join an occult?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 2, 2015 at 11:47 AM

lol

Quoting DarksMama: You mean 'cult'. Lol
Quoting Anonymous 2: What you did except when you join an occult?


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 2, 2015 at 11:48 AM
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Those two words mean completely different things. Its not about grammar.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Ok grammar nazi
Quoting DarksMama: You mean 'cult'. Lol
Quoting Anonymous 2: What you did except when you join an occult?


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