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Is this a thing?

Posted by on Jun. 2, 2015 at 9:23 PM
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Inviting a single person to a wedding without a plus one? I just read an article on Facebook about wedding etiquette and it said that you can only bring a date to a wedding if explicitly states plus one. I thought it was pretty rude to expect a guest to come alone but commenters said they sent out invites that way. Is this a common thing? It makes me a little nervous because I know my cousin is having a no kids wedding to save in the costs. I'm wondering if she will just invite me and not allow my boyfriend to come along (I'm divorced and he and I live separately but will be together for almost a year when the wedding comes along this fall).
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jun. 2, 2015 at 9:34 PM
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Yes. It is a thing. Some people don't want to have strangers at their wedding. Some would rather have more of their friends instead of friend's dates.

I don't think it's a big deal. You can spend one afternoon without your bf, can't you?
Spam72
by Emerald Member on Jun. 2, 2015 at 9:38 PM
My dh was invited to a wedding for a coworker without a plus one. I never met the guy so I didn't care. There were other guys from his office and they just hung out together. It was invite 3 coworkers and their wives or 6 without a plus one.
mjhunter
by Silver Member on Jun. 2, 2015 at 9:40 PM
It would probably be all day and its 3 hours away. It would depend on the type of wedding I guess. If it's a full dinner and dancing, it seems wrong to exclude single people. For me its not a big deal because I'm older, have been married and would have family there but for some single people weddings are a painful reminder that they're still single. I'll have to wait and see the invite.

Quoting Anonymous 1: Yes. It is a thing. Some people don't want to have strangers at their wedding. Some would rather have more of their friends instead of friend's dates.

I don't think it's a big deal. You can spend one afternoon without your bf, can't you?
CABZS
by Sapphire Member on Jun. 2, 2015 at 9:46 PM
Are you unable to go to a wedding alone? Are you unable to spend a fun evening without your boyfriend?

I don't get why people HAVE to bring a guest, why is it a must?

Quoting mjhunter: Inviting a single person to a wedding without a plus one? I just read an article on Facebook about wedding etiquette and it said that you can only bring a date to a wedding if explicitly states plus one. I thought it was pretty rude to expect a guest to come alone but commenters said they sent out invites that way. Is this a common thing? It makes me a little nervous because I know my cousin is having a no kids wedding to save in the costs. I'm wondering if she will just invite me and not allow my boyfriend to come along (I'm divorced and he and I live separately but will be together for almost a year when the wedding comes along this fall).
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 2, 2015 at 9:49 PM
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Single people aren't excluded, you are invited. Excluded would be not inviting you bc you are single.

So take him with you, make it a weekend trip but go to the wedding alone. DH and I have done that. We were married and I wasn't invited, it happens to married people too.

Quoting mjhunter: It would probably be all day and its 3 hours away. It would depend on the type of wedding I guess. If it's a full dinner and dancing, it seems wrong to exclude single people. For me its not a big deal because I'm older, have been married and would have family there but for some single people weddings are a painful reminder that they're still single. I'll have to wait and see the invite.

Quoting Anonymous 1: Yes. It is a thing. Some people don't want to have strangers at their wedding. Some would rather have more of their friends instead of friend's dates.

I don't think it's a big deal. You can spend one afternoon without your bf, can't you?
mjhunter
by Silver Member on Jun. 2, 2015 at 9:50 PM
It's not that I'm unable to go along, but it is a long way to travel alone. It's also my weekend for my kids to be with their dad so that usually means date night with the boyfriend. I try not to have him around a lot with the kids because I feel like the kids and I need time without him. It may all be a mute point if she specifically invites him or gives me a plus one. I personally enjoy dancing with my date at weddings too.

Quoting CABZS: Are you unable to go to a wedding alone? Are you unable to spend a fun evening without your boyfriend?

I don't get why people HAVE to bring a guest, why is it a must?

Quoting mjhunter: Inviting a single person to a wedding without a plus one? I just read an article on Facebook about wedding etiquette and it said that you can only bring a date to a wedding if explicitly states plus one. I thought it was pretty rude to expect a guest to come alone but commenters said they sent out invites that way. Is this a common thing? It makes me a little nervous because I know my cousin is having a no kids wedding to save in the costs. I'm wondering if she will just invite me and not allow my boyfriend to come along (I'm divorced and he and I live separately but will be together for almost a year when the wedding comes along this fall).
AngelSinger
by MS Warrior on Jun. 2, 2015 at 9:50 PM
Yes, it's a thing. I got a few such invites before I was married.
Charizma77
by Carissa on Jun. 2, 2015 at 9:51 PM
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It's been a thing for as long as I can remember ;) 

mjhunter
by Silver Member on Jun. 2, 2015 at 9:52 PM
Did you go to dinner alone?

Quoting Anonymous 2: Single people aren't excluded, you are invited. Excluded would be not inviting you bc you are single.

So take him with you, make it a weekend trip but go to the wedding alone. DH and I have done that. We were married and I wasn't invited, it happens to married people too.

Quoting mjhunter: It would probably be all day and its 3 hours away. It would depend on the type of wedding I guess. If it's a full dinner and dancing, it seems wrong to exclude single people. For me its not a big deal because I'm older, have been married and would have family there but for some single people weddings are a painful reminder that they're still single. I'll have to wait and see the invite.

Quoting Anonymous 1: Yes. It is a thing. Some people don't want to have strangers at their wedding. Some would rather have more of their friends instead of friend's dates.

I don't think it's a big deal. You can spend one afternoon without your bf, can't you?
CABZS
by Sapphire Member on Jun. 2, 2015 at 10:03 PM
Then freaking take him and spend the weekend out of town. I'm sure y'all can handle a few hours alone.

Nobody said you don't enjoy it, I enjoy dancing with my husband but can handle being without him for a bit.

Quoting mjhunter: It's not that I'm unable to go along, but it is a long way to travel alone. It's also my weekend for my kids to be with their dad so that usually means date night with the boyfriend. I try not to have him around a lot with the kids because I feel like the kids and I need time without him. It may all be a mute point if she specifically invites him or gives me a plus one. I personally enjoy dancing with my date at weddings too.

Quoting CABZS: Are you unable to go to a wedding alone? Are you unable to spend a fun evening without your boyfriend?

I don't get why people HAVE to bring a guest, why is it a must?

Quoting mjhunter: Inviting a single person to a wedding without a plus one? I just read an article on Facebook about wedding etiquette and it said that you can only bring a date to a wedding if explicitly states plus one. I thought it was pretty rude to expect a guest to come alone but commenters said they sent out invites that way. Is this a common thing? It makes me a little nervous because I know my cousin is having a no kids wedding to save in the costs. I'm wondering if she will just invite me and not allow my boyfriend to come along (I'm divorced and he and I live separately but will be together for almost a year when the wedding comes along this fall).
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