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Could you let your child make THIS choice?

Posted by on Oct. 29, 2015 at 8:36 AM
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5-Year-Old Girl With Incurable Disease Makes Decision to 'Go to Heaven' Rather Than Face More Treatments

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Michelle Moon and Steve Snow's daughter, Julianna, is so young, and yet she has suffered from unthinkable pain. The little girl is believed to have Charcot-Marie-Tooth disease (it's incurable in Julianna's case), and Michelle and Steve allowed their 5-year-old daughter to choose death instead of more painful treatments.

This. Is. Tough.

Looking from the outside, it's understandable why someone would question why parents would allow such a young child to "choose" death over medical intervention. Yes, she's 5, but Julianna has been dealing with an unthinkably painful situation for her entire life. Whether or not you agree with their decision, it's important to try to put all the cards on the table, as it wasn't easy for anyone involved.

The fact is this: Julianna is dying, and her condition is only getting worse and becoming more painful. From how it sounds, Julianna was the one who told her parents she didn't want to go back to the hospital. It's not like they pushed ideals of Heaven onto her. Julianna asked to stop, and her mother had an honest conversation with her little girl about what that meant.

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Julianna's mom, Michelle Moon, is a neurologist and former air force captain who first noticed her daughter wasn't reaching any developmental milestones when she was months old, which caused concern. Listening to her "inner mommy voice," Michelle did the research and discovered her precious daughter was showing signs of spinal muscular atrophy, a genetic disease that causes severe issues with muscle movement -- including great difficulties swallowing and breathing. Sadly, many children who suffer from this disorder die before their second birthday.

Aside from being smacked with this possible nightmare of a reality, Michelle, like most moms, wanted to know how her daughter could've possibly inherited this disease. Thinking of her husband Steve's "funny-looking feet" (it's not a joke, and actually played a major role), she sought a specialist who was then able to officially diagnose him with Charcot-Marie-Tooth disease. That same CMT expert tested Julianna, but was unable to pinpoint the specific genetic mutation that caused her disorder.

To think what this poor girl has endured over the years is heartbreaking. With their daughter's health continuing to decline, these parents seemingly did everything they could to nurse their sweet girl back to health. Julianna's dad left the air force to become her full-time caregiver, and her family (Julianna has a 7-year-old brother named Alex) moved closer to the Doernbecher Children's Hospital in Oregon, so she could get the treatment she needed.

But what else can you do when your now 5-year-old child has a progressive disease that makes breathing harder by the day? Even the slightest cold could sadly be a fatal blow.

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I can't even imagine what it's like to be in Michelle's shoes -- or any parent who will lose a child to a disease. You want to remain hopeful and keep fighting, but if doctors say medical intervention will likely become less helpful (remember, Julianna's muscles are getting weaker), and will be more painful ... it puts me at a loss for words. With the possibility of Julianna's dying from a procedure in the hospital, or passing away at home, to say you're stuck between a rock and a hard place is quite an understatement.

Michelle and Steve continued to take Julianna to the hospital -- even if it meant enduring multiple, and extremely painful, suctioning procedures to suck the mucus from her lungs (Julianna was so weak, she couldn't scream), which occurred almost every two hours.

At some point, however, you have to stop and pay attention to your child -- which is exactly what they did.

If I, myself, am a physician, and hear doctors tell me the inevitable will eventually happen -- but not before more pain for my little girl -- it's only natural for me to ask when enough is enough (Michelle's blog discusses her daughter's progress, and her toughest decision as a parent).

This has got to be such a hard decision for this family. I truly hope the days Julianna has left are full of peace. My thoughts and prayers are with this family, and anyone else who's faced with a situation like this.

Could you let your terminal child make this choice?

by on Oct. 29, 2015 at 8:36 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Oct. 29, 2015 at 8:38 AM
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I really dislike that this is in the news. I can't imagine that if my child were dying would want a bunch of assholes on the internet debating her end of life care.
Mazie0723
by Ruby Member on Oct. 29, 2015 at 8:41 AM
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I can't say for sure because I am not in that situation. I think would allow my child to choose. While it's incredibly sad I wouldn't want my child to suffer for my selfish reasons of holding on to him or her.
Cafe Steph
by on Oct. 29, 2015 at 8:41 AM
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The mother herself put it out there on her blog, so I think it's something she doesn't mind having others discuss. Sure, it's uncomfortable, especially when discussing a child, but it's an important subject that we should be debating. When is it OK to allow someone to choose to end their life rather than to continue treatment? Is a child capable of making this choice? Should anyone with a terminal illness be allowed to decide when to end things?

Quoting Anonymous 1: I really dislike that this is in the news. I can't imagine that if my child were dying would want a bunch of assholes on the internet debating her end of life care.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 29, 2015 at 8:42 AM
No, my 5 year old would not make the final decision. That's not to say I would have made a different decision. I just don't think life or death decisions should be placed on 5 year old, obviously.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 29, 2015 at 8:43 AM
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It doesn't matter what any of us would do, it's not our place to tell this family what to do or how to handle this situation. I can't imagine being in their shoes. I won't pretend to know how I would handle this.

Danesmommy1
by Grammar Enthusiast on Oct. 29, 2015 at 8:45 AM
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A five year old just isn't equipped to make a decision like this. End of story.
cynnie22
by Platinum Member on Oct. 29, 2015 at 8:48 AM
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I vote for quality of life over quantity.  The sad fact is this little girl is going to die.  The question is when.  Why prolong a life if it will be filled with pain and agony.  I can't imagine what this family is going through and my heart breaks for them.

peanutsmommy1
by Ruby Member on Oct. 29, 2015 at 8:50 AM
Yes, prolonging suffering isn't in the best interest of anyone
momto2boys973
by Sapphire Member on Oct. 29, 2015 at 8:52 AM
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I can't say for sure what I would do. But I definitely think a 5 year old doesn't have what's needed to make a proper, informed choice.
Personally, I don't think I have the capacity to make that choice either. I would really have to have serious talks with medical professional and my religious leaders to truly decide what's the right thing to do.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Oct. 29, 2015 at 8:52 AM

This. 

Quoting cynnie22:

I vote for quality of life over quantity.  The sad fact is this little girl is going to die.  The question is when.  Why prolong a life if it will be filled with pain and agony.  I can't imagine what this family is going through and my heart breaks for them.


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