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Would it bother you if (TMI)

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Would it bother you if your DH was watching porn at work? 

I caught DH talking to other women online earlier this year.  He swore he never met any of them and said he would never do it again.  He gave me access to his online accounts and I can go through his phone whenever I want.  He doesn't know that I can get on the laptop at home and see his phone's history with our browser history so I've been watching that. 

He seems to be behaving himself but he watches so much porn.  Pages and pages worth every day as soon as he gets to work and sometimes throughout the day.  Sometimes after I go to sleep.  He tells me about funny things he sees or things that he really liked so he's not hiding it but he's never mentioned the fact that he watches it at work and he doesn't mention the amount he's watching.  Last night he told me that he doesn't masturbate anymore when he watches it because he wants me so bad.  I never know what to believe with him.

It really bothers me.  He knows we don't have sex as much as I want to.  I've had twice in the last year that I've caught him masturbating when I was available and willing.  He didn't ask me to help out which really hurt my feelings.  I haven't talked to him about it yet because I'm trying to figure out what to say without sounding confrontational.  He used to watch it at work when we started dating but back then he would send me links and we would laugh about some of it.  I'm not part of it now which is what's really bothering me.

How would you approach this?  I don't want to start a fight and I don't want to ban him from watching porn but he's making me feel really insecure.  Something has to change!  I love sex more than just about anything but he's putting a complete damper on it.

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 16, 2015 at 9:12 AM
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by Platinum Member on Nov. 16, 2015 at 9:21 AM

 yes, sounds a bit inappropriate for the workplace

by Anonymous 2 on Nov. 16, 2015 at 9:22 AM
Soubds like a sex addict have him see a psychologist
by Anonymous 3 on Nov. 16, 2015 at 9:26 AM
It sounds like he has a problem.
by Tina on Nov. 16, 2015 at 9:28 AM

What job does he have where he has all that free time??

I've never understood the fascination with sex related things 24/7. Doesn't anyone have hobbies anymore?

My husband is working at work,not whacking it to internet porn

by Hey Brother on Nov. 16, 2015 at 9:29 AM
Yeah he should be working while he's at work, not watching porn
by Grammar Enthusiast on Nov. 16, 2015 at 9:30 AM
Porn doesn't bother me. Porn in excess and the exclusion of actual sex would most definitely bother me.
by Anonymous 4 on Nov. 16, 2015 at 9:35 AM
He's very unhappy with you. Bored out of his mind and misses being single.
He's a ticking time bomb. Leave and never return!
You live him but he doesn't love you.
How would you feel if some icky man forced you to love him? That's how he feels about you.
You don't have to be icky, you can be a model and he'll still not want anything to do with you because guys get tired of the same person
by Anonymous 5 on Nov. 16, 2015 at 9:36 AM

Lol, this is exactly why you don't allow that crap in your marriage to begin with. You're getting exactly what you asked for by trying to be the 'cool wife' and allow porn. I don't feel sorry for you. Either live with it or leave cause he more than likely won't change.

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