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Anonymous
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You call someone to discuss a problem and they cut you off to complain about their problems?

That's my mother. She never calls. We talk because I call her to see how she's doing. Well every now and then I'll call her to talk about something that upset me. Thinking that she will be an outlet, she turns the conversation into an issue she is having . It's bad enough that she is always complaining.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 31, 2016 at 2:32 PM
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TinkTink205
by Gold Member on Jan. 31, 2016 at 2:58 PM
I know people like that. I also love the ones that call me always complaining and then when I offer suggestions they don't want to hear it. Just don't want to solve their problems because they can't call everybody about woe is me.
ZamilyMom
by Platinum Member on Jan. 31, 2016 at 3:01 PM

If you know she always does this, stop calling her to discuss your problems, then this problem will be solved.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 31, 2016 at 3:03 PM
Is there another person you could talk to that will respond with compassion and truly listen?
Seagodess
by Emerald Member on Jan. 31, 2016 at 3:04 PM

That bugs me. I've stopped trying to talk to those people about my problems. 

LoveAll3306
by Party Specialist on Jan. 31, 2016 at 3:08 PM
I have a friend like that. She can never just listen to what anyone is saying then cuts them off and starts talking about herself. Needless to say, we aren't close anymore.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 31, 2016 at 3:08 PM
No, unfortunately, there isn't.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Is there another person you could talk to that will respond with compassion and truly listen?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 31, 2016 at 3:15 PM
She is a sounding board so to speak, she will hear you but there is no response to what you said...try to think of it as a venting fest? Maybe then you won't feel disappointed accepting that there is nothing more being offered from her.
Have you talked to her about it?

Quoting Anonymous 1: No, unfortunately, there isn't.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Is there another person you could talk to that will respond with compassion and truly listen?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 31, 2016 at 3:23 PM
No, I haven't. She is so unhappy, I just listen.

It's useless telling her how she is. I've tried in the past for other reasons and it was a waste of time. All I can do is work hard at NOT being like her.

Quoting Anonymous 2: She is a sounding board so to speak, she will hear you but there is no response to what you said...try to think of it as a venting fest? Maybe then you won't feel disappointed accepting that there is nothing more being offered from her.
Have you talked to her about it?

Quoting Anonymous 1: No, unfortunately, there isn't.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Is there another person you could talk to that will respond with compassion and truly listen?
mojogirl
by Ouiser Boudreaux on Jan. 31, 2016 at 3:26 PM

you just described my mom and my sister. you just have to understand that every conversation with that person will always be one-sided. and then you accept it or you choose to not have a relationship with them.

Tinse
by Crazy Bird Lady on Jan. 31, 2016 at 3:28 PM

I think this is a typical case of one-upmanship.  It's a human trait.

We all know people like this.

If you have a head cold, the person you're trying to elicit sympathy and understanding from has acute bronchitis.  And so it goes...

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