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Anonymous
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My husband wants sex pretty regularly. A minimum of twice Ia week. I on the other hand don't. I could go a month or more and be fine. But because I love him, I try and do it anyways ( at least once a week). But that's not good enough for him. He wants me to want it. And if I try to have sex even though I'm not in the mood he gets mad. If he goes too long without he gets mad. I mean seriously. Im damned if I do and damned if I don't.
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2016 at 12:44 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 6, 2016 at 12:49 PM
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Ugh same here. On top of that he also wants to go a long time & I just can't. I get frustrated then he gets his feelings hurt that I don't want to go for an hour or more. I'm good with 15 minutes. His biggest line is "most women would love a man that wants lots of sex & can go for a long time" well I'm not most women. Be liked me when he met me because I'm the opposite of most women he knew. Ugh, I love him but ugh
notjstasocermom
by Sapphire Member on Feb. 6, 2016 at 12:52 PM
I love sex.

I notice the less I do it the less I want it. And vice versa.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 6, 2016 at 12:54 PM

Same here! I've tried so hard to "be in the mood", but it's hard! We've been together almost 25 years, and married for 21 1/2 of those years. We've both changed alot, physically and mentally. It's hard, but I love him and want to please him. We have started trying different things, hopefully it will help!

ilovemykids323
by on Feb. 6, 2016 at 12:54 PM

fake it until you make it

answeredprayer
by Platinum Member on Feb. 6, 2016 at 12:59 PM
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What gets you in the mood? Can you try to do that? Sorry :( I want sex everyday, we just don't get to but maybe once a week because of schedules and kids. :/
nassivera
by Gold Member on Feb. 6, 2016 at 1:01 PM
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2 days a week really isn't that often. With that said, you should not be forced to have sex if you don't want to. However, he does have needs as well which is probably more along the lines of wanting love and affection from you, it isn't always necessarily about the sex.

jellybeanjean
by All the makeup on Feb. 6, 2016 at 1:03 PM
I notice that about it for myself too.

Just go in with an open mind op. Try to be positive! Is there anything about sex you like? Some kind of foreplay? Maybe try and work that into it....


Quoting notjstasocermom: I love sex.

I notice the less I do it the less I want it. And vice versa.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 6, 2016 at 1:07 PM

My dh is pretty similar, he wants it constantly but it has to be on his terms. I'm not against pity fucking the guy, if he's horny and I'm not I still offer him my body, hand, and/or mouth. He expects me to be porn-star horny at all times though and if I'm not he doesn't want me. So even though I'm offering to have sex with him he's turning me down and complaining that it's my fault. 

Elle.tea.22
by Emerald Member on Feb. 6, 2016 at 1:11 PM
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Something's wrong with you
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 6, 2016 at 1:25 PM
That's the thing. I'll try to have sex with him anyways and he gets so upset because I'm not in the mood. He doesn't want a pity fuck.

Also sex can be very painful for me. I have endometriosis. So that doesn't help as well.

And we have two kids. Our youngest is just over a year old that I'm still nursing. I'm also her only care provider. He does as little as possible with their care. So I'm exhausted and completely touched out.

I just get why if I'll have sex anyways why he can't just accept it and be happy.
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