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Teens and taking naked pics of self on phone

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I got my daughter an iPhone last year and an iPad this year. She is 15. The phone is good for her to have because I am divorced and we have no home phone. It's a good way to keep in touch with her.

In the past when she first got her phone, I found partially nude pics of her on her phone and basically she was sexting her boyfriend. He's 15 too. They've had sex once and I put her on birth control and don't let them be alone anymore anyway. I told her absolutely no sexting and no nude pics. I put parental controls on her phone too. Eventually she got her phone back. She told me she would not do these things again. I told her her phone could be accessed by me anytime to verify.

She broke her phone recently which I made her pay to fix. But I had her phone right after it was fixed and saw nude pics she took of herself again. I am sad that she feels she needs nude pics of herself and don't know what she's doing with them. I assume sending them to her boyfriend. I am considering taking her stuff away and just getting her a phone with no ability to take pics, no internet, etc.

I don't want to go to extremes. I realize I can't control her but I don't think she understands the impact of the pictures. If she's sending them to her boyfriend, if they break up, he can do as he pleases with them. And basically it's child porn.

Also I can't get over the fact that her boyfriend told her that I am not a real mother in a message he sent her. I know he's 15 and my daughter was complaining to him about me, but the boyfriend is so polite and kind to me in person. He acts so sweet. It is unnerving to me that he is nice to my face but would say that behind my back. I sacrifice everything for my kids. He's a kid that doesn't understand what a mom does for her kids.

What to do? What would you do? If you are young did you do this as a teen?

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 13, 2016 at 8:33 AM
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by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 13, 2016 at 8:37 AM

if they have pictues of each other it's considered child porn, she could get into trouble. My SD did this too, only the school enforcement officer saw the pictures on her phone, not good. Good luck, is all I can say. My SD just got into more and more trouble after that. 

by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 13, 2016 at 8:38 AM
keep checking up and don't stop - keep sharing stories of kids that were embarrassed once they broke up.
by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 13, 2016 at 8:41 AM

|The fact that it is illegeal is enough said, if you own the phone and not her, it can be consider child porn and could come back on you. I know someone who went through this when their teen lost their phone and someone found it with the pics.

Take the phone away!

by Ruby Member on Mar. 13, 2016 at 8:46 AM

Time for your daughter to be knocked back into reality.  At the very least she would loose the phone and the iPad.  

by Gold Member on Mar. 13, 2016 at 8:52 AM
Those pics are considered child porn and God forbid someone post those pics on the Internet. They could pop up whenever someone googled her name. I would take her phone and iPad.
by Anonymous 5 on Mar. 13, 2016 at 8:53 AM

there is a website called anon.ib, you have a choice of any school in any state where guys share pictures of ex girlfriends or just random girls. 

(My ex showed me this website as some guy posted my normal picture from facebook asking for my naked pictures a few years back) 

by Emerald Member on Mar. 13, 2016 at 10:12 AM

You take that damn phone and get her a cheap ass phone that can only call you before something really bad happens. You do understand probably 20or more  other boys have seen her nude right ? Her phone should have been gone forever after the 1st time.  Limit her electronic to when you can sit beside her to use them. Clearly she is abusing her privileges and can't handle the them.

by Bronze Member on Mar. 13, 2016 at 10:18 AM

Yep, cheap phone with no internet or camera.  I'd put a password on the home internet too.  I would be so sick to find naked pics of my teenager.  

by Anonymous 6 on Mar. 13, 2016 at 10:18 AM
I agree with the other posts about the pics and as far as what he said, don't worry about it. He was trying to be on her side, teens are so emotional and blow little stuff out of proportion so what he said isn't about you it's about trying to support his girlfriend at the expense of you. I did it to my friends parents and they all did it to mine, it's normal.
by Ruby Member on Mar. 13, 2016 at 10:18 AM
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Take the phone away. My kids would be dead if they did this and wouldn't have a phone till the could pay for themselves. I'd also tell the boys parents what they were doing as well.
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