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I reported a kid and he got kicked out of school...

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And I feel bad about it when I know I really shouldnt. I am a TA at a local university. I graded a recent exam that had a relatively high average and overall the prof and I were proud of the results. There were a couple failures but in a class of a couple hundred that is REALLY good. 

During my office hours a student came to see me. I probably shouldnt call them kids because I am not too much older but this kid is 18 and fresh out of high school. This is a general class/pre req usually taken in the first semester or year at the school so all the other classes can be taken. 

Well he came to my office with his test. He was one of the failures. Usually at this point (when a student brings me a failing exam grade) I help the student look at what grade is possible in the class (The 51% he got on the test pulled down his grade to a C but it was a pretty high C and still totally possible for him to get an average or even above average grade) and how to come up with a better way for them to study and do better on future exams. 

He didnt want to hear any of that. Instead he asked me if this could be solved by coming back to his parents house to show me the "time of my life". He said his parents would be out of town this weekend and we could spend the whole time together. 

At first I thought about laughing. I thought it must be a joke but he looked very serious and after a long awkward silence I realized he was being serious. I told him to leave my office right now. I then went directly to the head of the department. This is proper policy for a situation like that. The department head HAS to be informed by faculty ASAP. (Severe punishments happen if not reported right away or if they find out via another route). 

We all had a meeting with the dean a couple weeks later. The kid was kicked out of the school (they do take this stuff very seriously and there is even a section on proper student professor conduct in the school handbook that he signed). He cant even finish this semester. 

I feel bad because this is something that will have a big impact on his life. Maybe it is because I have a little brother around his age and would hate to think of one mistake derailing everything. I know I shouldnt but I do feel pretty guilty. I did the exact right thing following protocol and did everything I was supposed to do but I still feel bad. I know he is a grown adult and what he did was wrong but I guess I see people his age as young and stupid still. 

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 22, 2016 at 3:40 AM
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by Mary on Mar. 22, 2016 at 3:44 AM
He knew the policy.
by Ruby Member on Mar. 22, 2016 at 4:02 AM
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He's been watching too many movies if he thought that was an actual way to get a better grade.
by Bronze Member on Mar. 22, 2016 at 4:05 AM

Don't feel bad that you got to put a douche in his place!!! Maybe you feel crappy because it's like you "tattled" and not like you dealt with him directly, but what you did was right.

by Ruby Member on Mar. 22, 2016 at 8:32 AM
Don't feel bad. Pulling the crap he did says a lot about him. He got what he deserved. I'm surprised his mommy and daddy didn't come storming up to protest on their precious' behalf.
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 22, 2016 at 8:33 AM

you again?

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 22, 2016 at 8:36 AM


Quoting Anonymous 2:

you again?

by Grammar Enthusiast on Mar. 22, 2016 at 8:37 AM
He's an idiot who thinks he's living in a porno.
by Emerald Member on Mar. 22, 2016 at 8:39 AM
Lol he should have gotten an A for effort
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 22, 2016 at 8:48 AM

He's an adult and in control of his mouth

Stop feeling sorry for him. Hopefully he learns from his lesson and moves on.

by on Mar. 22, 2016 at 8:58 AM

You are right he is an adult, and knew the policy. You should not feel guilty. You have in fact taught him a very valuable life lesson, in how to treat not only women, but women who are authority figures in his life. Hopefully he will take a lot from this experience, and will realize how stupid that move was.

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