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Same rules for kids 12-17?

Anonymous
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My kids are 16 and 17. Dh's kids are 12 and 14.

We've been having issues lately with fairness. My kids are allowed to do more and have more freedoms because they are older, both can drive and have their own jobs, etc.

SD14 thinks we are treating her unfairly because we don't allow her to do as much as them.

Dh thinks we should set general rules for everyone, as in my kids have to follow the same rules as his kids.

I don't think that's right at all. It's common knowledge that older kids get a little more freedom. SD will get it too when she's old enough.

What do you think?
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 30, 2016 at 4:16 PM
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mcginnisc
by *Claire-Bear* on Mar. 30, 2016 at 4:23 PM

I'm with you...we tell our 7 year old that she doesn't get the same priviledges as her 10 year old sister, but she will one day...just like my 10 year old doesn't have the same priviledges as her 13 year old cousin. Older kids get more priviledges in life...that's the way it was when I was growing up. I never had the same rules as my brother that is 9 years older than I am. 

Claire


" I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 30, 2016 at 4:49 PM
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Not_A_Native
by Ruby Member on Mar. 30, 2016 at 4:52 PM

I'm with you.

My kids ranged over 13 years.  There was no way they all got the same rules.  I mean - at one point at home, I had an 18 year old, a 12 year old, a 9 year old, and a 6 year old.  Different rules for all of them - one in high school, one in middle school, 2 in elementary school.

81Crystal
by Ruby Member on Mar. 30, 2016 at 4:53 PM
Common sense says different ages should have different rules.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 30, 2016 at 4:57 PM

How can the same rules apply to them at all?

If they work, they will not be home as much as the others.  So they will have different chores and schedules,

what is her problem?

Oh wait I can answer that, she's a 14 year old girl - that's her problem

Bet her friends are doing it "all" and she feels so oppressed - yeah, that's it

No your rules get easier to live with as you get older. PERIOD

momto2boys973
by Sapphire Member on Mar. 30, 2016 at 4:59 PM
I agree with you. Age is a factor to consider. My brother is 4 years older than me and we had different rules. It's just common sense.
NYmama96
by Gold Member on Mar. 30, 2016 at 4:59 PM
This. My 12 year old isn't going to have the sane privilege as my 17 year old.

Quoting Anonymous 2:

How can the same rules apply to them at all?

If they work, they will not be home as much as the others.  So they will have different chores and schedules,

what is her problem?

Oh wait I can answer that, she's a 14 year old girl - that's her problem

Bet her friends are doing it "all" and she feels so oppressed - yeah, that's it

No your rules get easier to live with as you get older. PERIOD

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 30, 2016 at 5:01 PM

My kids didnt even get the same rules at the same age.  Everyone earns their privileges based on their chronological age and their maturity level and based on past choices.

How long have you been married?  Do the 12 and 14 yr old have exactly the same rules?

bcoll
by on Mar. 30, 2016 at 5:04 PM
My children do not all have the same rules.
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