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Cant decide on wedding venue...

Posted by Anonymous
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We have $8K total for our wedding and honeymoon, 7 months left to plan it, and can't decide on what to do. We have already decided what is the most important to us. Having fun, dacing, photography, being with all of our friends and family. Our guest list is less than 45 people. Here are the options we've considered:

1. Home wedding in backyard. Might be too small. Definitely a ton of work. Cheap.I already work a lot.

2. Elope. Everyone will be pissed. We might be disappointed we didn't have pictures and a day with family and friends. Plus, kids are super excited about being in the wedding. Bonus: amazing honeymoon.

3. Courthouse wedding + Reception at restaurant/grill/bar. 0nly allowed to have 8 people with you which would be just us and our children. LOL. Can't decide what restaurant/grill/bar we should go to. Most restaurants we like are in midtown. Not cheap but affordable and fits in budget.

4. Ceremony at a pub that has beautiful ivy-covered outdoor area + reception described above. Would probably max out our budget. Ceremony and reception would be close together but still have traffic. Most pubs/restaurants we have found also want the ceremony to begin later in the day than we wanted. We were thinking early afternoon- restaurants/bar/gril etc want early evening.

Thoughts? If these were your choices or if you had it to do all over again, what would you choose?

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 11, 2016 at 10:50 AM
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by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 11, 2016 at 10:53 AM
Is this a first wedding for either or both of you?
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 11, 2016 at 11:00 AM

I did number 3 and it was a blast. We were allowed to have everyone we wanted in the room though. IMO no one really wants to sit though and 1.5 hour church wedding, lol. Spend the money on the reception and honeymoon. Those are the fun parts. Most of it will be a stressful blur to be honest. 

by Platinum Member on Apr. 11, 2016 at 11:03 AM
You may want to look into a country club/golf club wedding. Around here, it's quite affordable and the venues are beautiful. You won't have the traffic noises. And with such a small guest list, I'm sure you'd get a great deal!

If you do end up doing the restaurant thing, have your ceremony in the early evening right before the reception with maybe 1 hr cocktail time in between. Your guests will appreciate it. Plus, the lighting in early eve is MUCH better for pictures!
by Party Specialist on Apr. 11, 2016 at 11:04 AM
In options 3 and 4, how many people will the reception space accommodate?
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 11, 2016 at 11:05 AM
Option 4
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 11, 2016 at 11:06 AM

Can you do a backyard wedding at someone else's house that is bigger?  My mom hosts a wedding every year because she has such a large and lovely yard.  

by Emerald Member on Apr. 11, 2016 at 11:06 AM

Out of those, I think your house would be the best. I dont like any of the other options at all.

What about a park or something?

by Silver Member on Apr. 11, 2016 at 11:08 AM
So a November / December wedding? Where do you live that you can consider an outdoor wedding that time of yr.?
What are the ages of your children?
by Ruby Member on Apr. 11, 2016 at 11:09 AM

I vote 1 or 3.

by Navy Mom on Apr. 11, 2016 at 11:10 AM
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Honestly, if I had an $8k budget for a wedding, I'd elope with my man to someplace like Sandals Jamacia and get married on a beautiful beach, just the two of us, enjoy our honeymoon, and come back to have a backyard bbq with all my family and friends.  Especially if this is a second marriage.  People say they'd be pissed if they aren't there, but it's not their wedding.  You already have kids, so do what works best for you and your immediate family.

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