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Would you have more kids?

Posted by on Apr. 20, 2016 at 11:07 AM
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Hi everyone I am new to the group but been apart of Cafe mom for years I never really posted anything until now when I need honest opinions!! I'm a stay-at-home mom of three kids,currently 9 year old 5 year old and a 3 year old. My husband has always wanted a large family and I assume I agreed. But 3 kids as you can expect having three children has really taken a toll on my body where I look like and feel like I am 70 and I'm super self-conscious about my clothes or if my top comes up and especially about my boobs after breastfeeding three children they have definitely become basically pancakes now that I have almost 2 kids in school I am looking forward to getting a job and honestly getting a life I've been inside and at home for far too long but now my husband has really been pressuring me to have another one and I just feel like it is really a step in the wrong direction for me since I actually want to do something with my life here's the kicker he has promised that if I have another child I can have a mommy makeover or whatever it is that I think I need which I'm sure is a tummy tuck in a boob job of some sort the question is would you do this spend another at least five years as a stay-at-home mom? I am currently 27 right now and my biological mother has had 6 children and probably would have been more if she didn't have a few miscarriages so I know I can probably hold a few more kids help me!!
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wkukid
by Beach Bum on Apr. 20, 2016 at 11:09 AM
If you don't want another you shouldn't have another.
admsj5
by Emerald Member on Apr. 20, 2016 at 11:10 AM
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I have 5 and would have loved to have more, but that ship has sailed for me. If you want more, your husband wants more, and you can afford them, then I say go for it.
two4one
by Ruby Member on Apr. 20, 2016 at 11:10 AM
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As someone who has never been a sahm, I could not imagine myself doing that. It is kinda ridiculous that he is bribing you to have another one. If you do not want to have another, then don't. Your husband will have to accept it.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Apr. 20, 2016 at 11:10 AM

I'd have another if I wanted one, stay home for a year or two, and look at going back to work in some capacity as the baby got a little older.  

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 20, 2016 at 11:11 AM
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Don't do it.

Take next years taxes & get your make over
Libby22
by Ruby Member on Apr. 20, 2016 at 11:11 AM

This one is easy. Don't have more kids if you don't want to raise more kids. He shouldn't try to bribe you with a mommy makeover.... That makes him seem petty and immature.

LoveAll3306
by Party Specialist on Apr. 20, 2016 at 11:13 AM
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I have three also and I am completely fulfilled. I am also ready to get back into the professional world when all are in school full time. That definitely wouldn't be possible if I had a fourth. I hope everything works out the way you want it to.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 20, 2016 at 11:13 AM
Do what you are comfortable with. If you want another child that is different. Don't have one because he, alone, wants one. That is something you both need to agree with.. not be pushed into with a bribe. That 'promise' may never happen.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 20, 2016 at 11:14 AM

I wouldn't. I can't afford to raise 4 on my own even with a decent career and I refuse to have more than I can raise on my own 100% This stems from losing my dad young and having my life turned upside down. I vowed to never do that to my kids and always remain independent. I would just pay for the makeover myself. It doesn't sound like you want to do this and you don't have too. You're a real person, not just a breeder for your DH. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 20, 2016 at 11:14 AM
If you can afford it and are mentally ready for another one...then go for it.
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