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I did it once for her and now she's taking advantage of me

Posted by on Apr. 20, 2016 at 3:13 PM
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My downstairs neighbor is (was) a delightful, single older woman in her 60s.
Because of her age, me & DF help her out from time to time. Moving furniture, painting furniture and grocery shop when she needs help.
She asked me to help with her wardrobe because she's going to start dating lol.
No problem.
I did it for free because I like her.

The problem:
She now wants me to do the same for her DIL, her sister and her friend... For free.

I explained that I cannot, but then she went off on a guilt trip.
This is my career. It's my bread & butter and she simply can't grasp that I cannot extend myself for 3 others that I don't know.

She's laying this guilt shit on thick.
I need a better way of explaining, but honestly she's starting to piss me off.

Any suggestions?
by on Apr. 20, 2016 at 3:13 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Apr. 20, 2016 at 3:16 PM
You cant help someone out?
couture-mommy
by 8.21.1831 on Apr. 20, 2016 at 3:16 PM
That's awesome.
Make sure to keep disliking me, I'll give out coupons.
couture-mommy
by 8.21.1831 on Apr. 20, 2016 at 3:17 PM
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Not 3 people. No

Quoting Anonymous 1: You cant help someone out?
morgiefae
by on Apr. 20, 2016 at 3:17 PM

.... I just started ignoring my neighbors when they asked for help with their computers. ... yes the crazies that live below me.

I'm starting to think they find me scary now, or that they just think I'm  a major bitch now. 

SmurfGoneBad
by on Apr. 20, 2016 at 3:18 PM
Stand firm and say no. That's pretty ballsy of her to ask. I don't know of anyone who has that much free time to run around for multiple people. I would give her the number for grocery delivery services and handy man services.
couture-mommy
by 8.21.1831 on Apr. 20, 2016 at 3:18 PM
Its super annoying for people to use you due to your expertise or job.

Fuck them.

Let's have fun this weekend. Lol

Quoting morgiefae:

.... I just started ignoring my neighbors when they asked for help with their computers. ... yes the crazies that live below me.

I'm starting to think they find me scary now, or that they just think I'm  a major bitch now. 

momngram
by Ruby Member on Apr. 20, 2016 at 3:18 PM
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Just say No, I'm not doing that.  However if they want to pay my going rate of $????? I would be happy to take them on as clients.

What kind of job do you have?

Episkey
by Dra til helvete on Apr. 20, 2016 at 3:19 PM
1 mom liked this
She already did.

Quoting Anonymous 1: You cant help someone out?
Melissa_4
by Navy Mom on Apr. 20, 2016 at 3:19 PM

Give her a written estimate of your services.

BCauseImAwesome
by Platinum Member on Apr. 20, 2016 at 3:20 PM
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I am so confused. How did you help her exactly? What is it she wants you to do?
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