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how could a mother say that to her daughter?

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My sister in law is 22 weeks pregnant. She has been in the hospital on bed rest since 20 weeks, when her water broke. They've been monitoring her very closely and trying to get her to 24 weeks so the baby has a chance, but on Saturday she started to run a fever. Her white blood cell count is sky rocketing, and on Sunday morning they began discussing an induction with her to prevent her from becoming septic. They're flooding her with antibiotics but her lab work from this morning is showing signs of kidney and liver damage, her white cell count is continuing to climb, and she is becoming septic. This morning she agreed to start the induction. She is absolutely devastated and broken to have to make this decision, but she's already waited over 24 hours beyond what the doctors had wanted, and she's getting increasingly ill very quickly.

I've been with her through most of this, and will remain with her until she goes home, she'll be coming home with me because of her husband's erratic work schedule, until he can actually take time off to be with her and care for her.

Her mother, my mother in law, has been present throughout some of this as well and she's been fine, not very helpful or supportive but at least there for her daughter. Until now, of course. Mil is stupidly pro-life, to the point where she doesn't believe in terminating a pregnancy for any reason, including her daughter's inevitable death. When she got here this morning and found out sil has signed the consent for the induction and had started it, she lost it. She ended up being escorted out by security, screaming the whole way about how the hospital was killing her grandchild, how could her bitch of a daughter be doing this, how she was a grieving grandmother and just wanted to save her grandchild's life.

My sister in law had to be sedated after the things her mother said to her and she wanted to stop the induction. That'll kill her. The doctors, nurses, chaplain, and social services finally got her to consent again, but I just want to kill mil. I can't believe she did this. She's always had this as her own personal soap box, but to treat her own child that way? To tell her daughter she should die for a baby that won't make it anyway? I don't think I can ever see that woman again and not want to physically hurt her. Sil has been through so much already, and she loves and wants this baby so much, she's already struggling with this decision and then her mother pulls this?
Posted by Anonymous on May. 30, 2016 at 11:56 AM
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awelling
by Ruby Member on May. 30, 2016 at 11:58 AM
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Some people are assholes.
shadow_lark
by Ruby Member on May. 30, 2016 at 11:59 AM
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Wow, that's awful. Why can't your bil be there? Seems like he should be
thatgirlyouknow
by on May. 30, 2016 at 12:00 PM
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She sucks. I don't understand how someone that's pro-life could be so for someone who's already been born dying, especially when that someone is her daughter and her dying wouldn't let the baby live.
3JuJu3
by Ruby Member on May. 30, 2016 at 12:01 PM
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Some pro-life people are like this. I'm sorry your SIL lost her child, and for her mother being a closed minded imbecile, making her loss all the more painful.
Robin-Christine
by Platinum Member on May. 30, 2016 at 12:02 PM
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Sorry this is happening.Great you are there for her.I recently met a micro preemie,she is now two,she was born at less than three pounds.My friend is her foster mom
mama_danetta
by She's so heavy on May. 30, 2016 at 12:03 PM
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Just another example of pro-birth vs. pro-life.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on May. 30, 2016 at 12:04 PM
When I was pregnant, I had hyperemesis, and it got so bad I was passing put randomly. Fell down a flight of stairs once. Called my mom and asked her to take me to the hospital.

Her response? "I didn't get you pregnant, so why the fuck should I help you? You're pregnant, not dying of a disease."
Maruchan
by Silver Member on May. 30, 2016 at 12:05 PM
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Don't you know a potential human has more of right to live than an actual living person, even if it kills the mother? Because of a diety created by men in a book meant to control people said so?
mojogirl
by Ouiser Boudreaux on May. 30, 2016 at 12:05 PM
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grief is a powerful force and some people, lots of people, just can't handle it. {{{hugs}}} to all.

devinsane
by on May. 30, 2016 at 12:06 PM
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that's fucked up. glad she has you

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