It's not our wedding!!!!

[Anonymous]

DH has to travel for work next week so we decided to wrap it into a long vacation for just the two of us. SIL is getting married on the 20th. She is throwing a fit that we won't be around the week before her wedding. None of us are actually in the wedding, just guests. We will be back on the 18th. My parents are keeping the kids so it affects no one of DH's side. I think bridezilla is just mad she isn't going to have big bro and myself to do her bidding. Is it wrong of us to book a vacation so close it her wedding?

[Anonymous 2]

Your dh is her brother and hes not in the wedding?

[Princess_Thena]

Not at all. If you aren't in the wedding, all you have to do is show up to the actual wedding. Why does she want you around prior to the big day?

[Maiden6910]

If you're not in it, then your only obligation is to show up to the ceremony and reception. Have fun on your vacation!

[admsj5]

Not at all. You aren't in it, so no other duties than to show up at scheduled time.

[Anonymous 1 - Original Poster]

She is 14 years younger than us. All of their wedding party are "Greek" siblings. I am sure we will be in pictures and we are invited to the rehearsal but DH nor the kids are playing any part in the wedding. Honestly, I can't say I am upset. She's been quite particular in how she wants everything done.

Quoting Anonymous 2: Your dh is her brother and hes not in the wedding?

[Anonymous 1 - Original Poster]

She can't answer that she's just throwing a fit about it. We are invited to the reversal dinner but that is Friday night. We get back Thursday morning.

Quoting Princess_Thena: Not at all. If you aren't in the wedding, all you have to do is show up to the actual wedding. Why does she want you around prior to the big day?

[STVUstudent]

nothing wrong with your plans.  Like you said, not your wedding, nor are you participants. 

[Princess_s21]

Yeah if your not at all involved in the Wedding, she should have no issues with it, she has her whole bridal party etc to help out during that week

[AngelSinger]

You aren't doing anything wrong. You are not in thrall to her "special day."

[blessed107]

I would ignore her tantrum.