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Should I cut her loose?

Anonymous
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About three years ago a friend of my sister introduced me to a friend of hers.

The woman started doing our hair. My girls and I are black. Haircare is a big deal for us.

I had a baby last year. I lost the weight immediately but I was overweight when I got pregnant so I could still stand up loose 20lbs

The thing is the last two times we've gotten. Our hair done the woman has mentioned my weight.

I think I should start doing my own hair.

The comments were

You look like you are gaining weight.

You need a girdle.

Mind you she is at least 50lbs overweight herself.

I'm 5 7 and I'm. Size 10 dress. I just have a really big butt.
Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 6, 2016 at 11:43 AM
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diaperstodating
by on Aug. 6, 2016 at 11:46 AM
I wouldn't cut her loose.
The woman who does my hair has been doing it for years. If I was in your situation I would try to deal with it until I found someone else who could do my hair.
Congrats on your baby and weight loss!
shadow_lark
by Platinum Member on Aug. 6, 2016 at 11:46 AM
I would. No need to listen to that tripe when there are a million other qualified hair professionals out there.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 6, 2016 at 11:48 AM
I've been trying to learn to do it myself. We have natural hair.

Quoting diaperstodating: I wouldn't cut her loose.
The woman who does my hair has been doing it for years. If I was in your situation I would try to deal with it until I found someone else who could do my hair.
Congrats on your baby and weight loss!
rhope4
by Gold Member on Aug. 6, 2016 at 11:48 AM
That is very unprofessional of her. I would change hairdressers and report her to management if in a salon.
luvmybubs
by Bronze Member on Aug. 6, 2016 at 11:48 AM
It doesn't matter how overweight you are, it is none of her business. I'd do my own hair until I found someone new. Hell I'd travel to another town to get my hair done before going back to her.
PPCLC
by AZ Lizard on Aug. 6, 2016 at 11:49 AM
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You've known her for 3 years and I am guessing that perhaps in the course of time you've spent sitting there as she does your hair, you got to know one another much better, and may have even struck up a good friendship.

If so and depending on how she said those things, I would think she might have felt it was OK and just a part of the normal conversation. IOW, she felt comfortable and perhaps you might be a little overly sensitive.

Just a guess.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 6, 2016 at 11:50 AM
She works out of her home a "kitchen beautician."

In our state natural hair care isn't licensed.

We'd become a bit close. Texting and such. She considers herself my friend.

Quoting rhope4: That is very unprofessional of her. I would change hairdressers and report her to management if in a salon.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 6, 2016 at 11:50 AM
Cut her loose. How rude
rhope4
by Gold Member on Aug. 6, 2016 at 11:56 AM
If she considers you two friends, you need to tell her "as a friend" that her words are not helping and are instead hurting.

Quoting Anonymous 1: She works out of her home a "kitchen beautician."

In our state natural hair care isn't licensed.

We'd become a bit close. Texting and such. She considers herself my friend.

Quoting rhope4: That is very unprofessional of her. I would change hairdressers and report her to management if in a salon.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Aug. 6, 2016 at 11:57 AM

That would annoy me. I don't need bodyshamed while I'm getting my hair done. 

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