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I am fed up....I want child support!

Anonymous
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My kids father hasn't given me child support in years. He had a good job and he quit it when he married his now wife. He has nothing to do with our kids . Never have.

He has two cases against him. I had dd in nj and ds in nyc. .


In nj his arrears are under 10,000 . In nyc his arrears is a little under 30,000. Neithier state has done anything...no arrest warrant nothing!!

I want a warrant issued for his arrest. Idk whats up with thier system.. on tv this guy on a reality show was arrested for only owing 9k in child support. My kids dad owes way more than that and I cant find any information online as to how to get an arrest warrant.

He has had more than enough time to get a job. Im paying for all of their school stuff, birthday, entertainment, rent..everything by myself!! Its not fair.


He literally quit his job the day after he got married. His wife doesnt work eithier. She does little things like babysitting.They are both on welfare and they had a child together who is autistic and they are getting ssi for him. They are living high off the hog.

Their rent is 40 dollars a month. All utilities are paid. They get food stamps.The ssi is an extra $746 a month to blow on whatever.

I looked at his facebook page last month and he had pics of them at a disney on ice show , bbqing, Christmas he had a HUGE spread ...

It took everything in me not to cry for my kids because he didnt even call them on christmas or their birthday let alone buy them anything. Ds turned 9 yesterday. ..he did not send a birthday card ..nothing and he knows where we live. He lives less than three miles away..haven't seen him in two years. Its just so hard.

I want him to get arrested for not paying child support. I dont even know how to get that started.

Id like to go to the courthouse immediately and ask questions but my kids are home for the summer. I dont want them questioning me or overhearing me speak and getting upset...but I dont want to wait another day eithier. Im fed up.

Idk what to do.
Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 18, 2016 at 2:09 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 18, 2016 at 2:15 PM
Bump...does anyone know how to get a child support arrest warrant in nyc?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 18, 2016 at 2:21 PM
File a violation of support.
Link one

https://www.nycourts.gov/courthelp/diy/supportEnforcement.shtml
And two
https://www.childsupport.ny.gov/dcse/ch
ild_support_services.html

jspee10
by Bronze Member on Aug. 18, 2016 at 2:21 PM

in NY-they wont enforce if the non custodial parent is receiving any type of govenerment assistance

as for NJ i'm not sure-call them


in PA-we close the case is the non custodial parent is receiving SSI. good luck to you

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 18, 2016 at 2:23 PM
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You cant just choose to have him arrested. You go to the courthouse or C's office and file a violation of support. Then have a court date and see what the judge orders.

Quoting Anonymous 1: Bump...does anyone know how to get a child support arrest warrant in nyc?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 18, 2016 at 2:23 PM
Oh boy that sucks so bad for the children. He's not receiving ssi for him. The ssi is for his child. He's not disabled he's just lazy and doesnt want to work.

Quoting jspee10:

in NY-they wont enforce if the non custodial parent is receiving any type of govenerment assistance

as for NJ i'm not sure-call them

in PA-we close the case is the non custodial parent is receiving SSI. good luck to you

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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 18, 2016 at 2:24 PM
Okay so I will do that. Tommorow morning in fact.

Quoting Anonymous 2: You cant just choose to have him arrested. You go to the courthouse or C's office and file a violation of support. Then have a court date and see what the judge orders.

Quoting Anonymous 1: Bump...does anyone know how to get a child support arrest warrant in nyc?
angl_mama35
by Silver Member on Aug. 18, 2016 at 2:24 PM

get a lawyer and go to court, thats all i can say

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 18, 2016 at 2:26 PM
Thank you for the links.

Quoting Anonymous 2: File a violation of support.
Link one

https://www.nycourts.gov/courthelp/diy/supportEnforcement.shtml
And two
https://www.childsupport.ny.gov/dcse/ch
ild_support_services.html

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 18, 2016 at 2:27 PM
No problem and good luck at the courthouse

Quoting Anonymous 1: Thank you for the links.

Quoting Anonymous 2: File a violation of support.
Link one

https://www.nycourts.gov/courthelp/diy/supportEnforcement.shtml
And two
https://www.childsupport.ny.gov/dcse/ch
ild_support_services.html

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Aug. 18, 2016 at 2:31 PM
The link says you cant file if the person is on public assistance. Omg...he's been on for like several years now . I havent had any contact with him so I dont even know if he's still on...or if his wife os receiving it for all of them...I dont have a clue. Im going to call child support customer service and see what they have to tell me about that.

Quoting Anonymous 2: No problem and good luck at the courthouse

Quoting Anonymous 1: Thank you for the links.

Quoting Anonymous 2: File a violation of support.
Link one

https://www.nycourts.gov/courthelp/diy/supportEnforcement.shtml
And two
https://www.childsupport.ny.gov/dcse/ch
ild_support_services.html

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