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How do you deal with 12 year old sass?

Anonymous
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My youngest isn't feeling well. My 9 year old is trying to take care of him. In the middle of it my 12 year old went and started cuddling with him. It was sweet but my 9 year old asked her to back off because he was spending time with his brother. 12 year old ignored him. 9 year old got mad and got more assertive and TOLD 12 year old to back off. She still didn't.

So I stepped in and asked her nicely to let the boys have their time.

She gives me some back sass which I ignored and tried to diffuse with "just let it go."

She kept pressing me about how I shouldn't let a 9 year old get his way and blah blah and I snapped on her and told her "you are not his parent and you are not my parent so shit your mouth and keep your opinion to yourself!"

Of course I feel bad because I more yelled than spoke.

How on earth do you keep your cool with preteens?
Posted by Anonymous on Sep. 7, 2016 at 5:59 PM
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lucky2Beeme
by Emerald Member on Sep. 7, 2016 at 6:30 PM

When they got sassy I escorted them to their bedroom. They were told when they could speak respectfully, listen and follow directions and apologize they were welcome to come out.

spunky946
by Ruby Member on Sep. 7, 2016 at 6:43 PM
He goes to his room until he can speak nicely. If there is stomping up the stairs he can go up and down them u til he can't stomp.
MrsBieg
by Platinum Member on Sep. 7, 2016 at 6:47 PM
I never ignored attitude. I addressed it. And for my troubles I had to endure very little sass from my girl, and absolutely none from the boy. He's 15 now, so I guess hr still might try it. But I think I'm out of the woods.
PrettyLittle6
by LeahLikesPerfect on Sep. 7, 2016 at 6:57 PM

I don't yell or even use a harsh voice often (luckily, I haven't had to- yet!), so right now I just have to speak like I mean it. Which I usually do if I'm even at that point of using "the voice." Sadly, I had to use it this morning, on the way to school. As soon as I said what I said, the complaining stopped and the car ride was silent the rest of the way there lol. I mean, it's effective to say the least. But I always feel a little mean afterwards. It's cool though, she was fine when I picked her up after school :)

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