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So, it appears that my ex's son may be coming to live with us after all

Posted by on Sep. 7, 2016 at 6:58 PM
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I got a call today that DCF finally realized that I do meet the definition of a qualified relative which means I do not require a foster care license for placement.  They interpreted the definition wrong which was my argument from the beginning. I am approved now besides some paperwork.

I don't know how long it will be though because I think my ex will meet all of his requirements soon for reintegration.

I am kind of excited for Raymond to have a playmate for a little awhile, especially since all of the other kids are in school now.


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Curlymom234
by Flamingo lady on Sep. 7, 2016 at 6:59 PM
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Yay! Good luck!!
miracleblues
by Gold Member on Sep. 7, 2016 at 6:59 PM
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Awesome!!
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Sep. 7, 2016 at 7:01 PM

you're getting custody of your ex's child???

Danesmommy1
by Grammar Enthusiast on Sep. 7, 2016 at 7:01 PM
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I'm glad you're getting to help this little boy.
theboyfactory
by on Sep. 7, 2016 at 7:03 PM
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No, he is in the custody of the state right now.  I will be a relative foster care placement until he is reintegrated with his father.

Quoting Anonymous 1:

you're getting custody of your ex's child???


Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Sep. 7, 2016 at 7:04 PM
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Can you explain the qualifying relative thing? There are some family members in need of care that I would liek to help, but am not sure we are a qualifying relative.

And good for you helping this little guy.

theboyfactory
by on Sep. 7, 2016 at 7:04 PM

I do.

Quoting Anonymous 2: You suck


luckysevenwow
by Emerald Member on Sep. 7, 2016 at 7:04 PM
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For some reason I thought you already had him.

But congrats for now!
MIA0223
by Emerald Member on Sep. 7, 2016 at 7:05 PM
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Wow, that's a big deal!
I missed a bit I guess. Glad he is going to a good home and Raymond will have fun :)
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theboyfactory
by on Sep. 7, 2016 at 7:07 PM

Children that have been removed from their home by the state?

When children are removed, they are usually placed with relatives first. Each state defines what is considered a relative to the child. That definition varies. Anyway, if you are a relative, the requirements are more lax than typical foster care.

In my state, it says that the spouse of a biological parent can be considered a relative even if there has been a dissolution of the marriage. DCF argued that the marriage had to be during the child's lifetime, but that is not what the reg says.  I have been a spouse of the bio parent but the marriage ended in divorce. There is no language about during the lifetime of the child.

Quoting Anonymous 3:

Can you explain the qualifying relative thing? There are some family members in need of care that I would liek to help, but am not sure we are a qualifying relative.

And good for you helping this little guy.


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