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Who is wrong in this situation?

Posted by on Oct. 22, 2016 at 1:51 PM
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A man and his wife own a bar. At first it does really well. They hire his sister to be a manager. Everyone is loving it because they are making good money and it is nice to be around family. After a few years things go downhill. She goes from manager to bartender (so they can pay her less) 

The bar starts completely failing and they are losing money every month. The sister says that she will keep working for tips to help them out. After a year she cant afford to do it anymore. She says she needs to get another job. 

The brother and his wife tell her if she leaves the bar will fail. She is one of their only stable bartenders and the only person they have to work on certain days besides them. They cant afford to pay someone else and they cant handle losing a bartender. The sister tells them sorry but she needs to make a stable income. 

Now the family is saying that they are going to lose everything and blaming her. The rest of their family is siding with them saying how could she do this knowing their business will fail and they will lose everything including all of their money and their home.


I cant blame the sister at all. She has done more than enough to help. Their bar is not her obligation and it isnt her fault they started failing in  the first place.  

This is a situation someone posted in another forum and I was surprised by the responses...I wondered what the moms on moms confessions thought. 

ETA: The owners both are working without pay way more than full time. The sister thinks the reason it is failing is because there are other bars with better locations in the area and their bar is outdated. They cant redo anything though because they dont have the money 



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happymommy1105
by Platinum Member on Oct. 22, 2016 at 1:54 PM
They need to work more if they can't afford to pay people.

Why is it failing? What did they change? What are they doing differently?

They need to solve the root of the problem
shadow_lark
by Platinum Member on Oct. 22, 2016 at 1:54 PM
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Unless there's something big left out of this story, It's the owners fault their bar is failing. If they had done their job, most likely they wouldn't be in this situation, or they would have closed the bar earlier to avoid this happening.
quinnsmom715
by Ruby Member on Oct. 22, 2016 at 1:55 PM
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the couple suck as business owners.not sises fault or problem..

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Oct. 22, 2016 at 1:55 PM
Well as the manager what was she doing that caused it to fail?

It seems everyone is responsible forvthr failure and it does suck for the other 2 that she's just walking away
Masterchefmom
by Sapphire Member on Oct. 22, 2016 at 1:56 PM

The owners both are working without pay way more than full time. The sister thinks it is because there are other bars with better locations in the area and they are outdated. They cant redo anything though because they dont have the money 

Quoting happymommy1105: They need to work more if they can't afford to pay people. Why is it failing? What did they change? What are they doing differently? They need to solve the root of the problem


AnonMomof3
by Gold Member on Oct. 22, 2016 at 1:57 PM
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They should call Bar Rescue.
lacyd75_anew
by Silver Member on Oct. 22, 2016 at 1:58 PM
Not the sisters fault they can't keep their own business going. She has to do what she has to do what she needs to in order to put money in her pocket. How is that her fault? She has been doing more than most would to help keep them going.
Masterchefmom
by Sapphire Member on Oct. 22, 2016 at 1:58 PM

There is a lot more competition than before and the bar is outdated. That isnt anything the sister could control. 

Quoting Anonymous 1: Well as the manager what was she doing that caused it to fail? It seems everyone is responsible forvthr failure and it does suck for the other 2 that she's just walking away


Masterchefmom
by Sapphire Member on Oct. 22, 2016 at 1:58 PM
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That was my first thought lol 

Quoting AnonMomof3: They should call Bar Rescue.


tvsoccermom15
by Silver Member on Oct. 22, 2016 at 1:58 PM

Maybe they should call Bar Rescue

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