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Her parents said no and I'm not sure what to do ETA

Posted by on Oct. 27, 2016 at 11:16 AM
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My oldest son 15 has a gf 15. They've been "dating" for a year. Which means they've gone to a youth group together a few times, he escorted her to her Quinceanera, and they go to school together.

He invited her over for dinner and a movie. We were going to make spaghetti and meatballs (her favorite). Watch a movie of their choice together. Her parents said no. Because they don't want any chance of them being alone together. Which I understand.

I had no intention of them being left unattended. Obviously I wasn't going to smother them. But I was a teen Mom. There is no fucking way I'm going to allow anything like that under my roof. And I'm not sure how to convey that to her parents.

English is also their second language so communicating with them is a challenge. :/

ETA: This is more about letting her parents know we agree that they shouldn't be left alone. That were on the same page for the future. If this doesn't happen of course I'm not going to go against their wishes of push this.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Oct. 27, 2016 at 11:18 AM
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I don't think you can do anything but respect their wishes.  

Northern.Maple
by on Oct. 27, 2016 at 11:19 AM

Weird they won't allow a dinner and a movie. lol

I would reach out and invite the parents over as well and maybe they will see your home and how you are and will lighten up a bit.

Libby22
by Ruby Member on Oct. 27, 2016 at 11:19 AM

Ugh, that's difficult but I think you might just have to let it go. They're probably really conservative and even the appearance that something could happen would be problematic for their family. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Oct. 27, 2016 at 11:20 AM
Why not suggest they host if they're so worried about it and offer to send over dinner?
MomKat7
by Gold Member on Oct. 27, 2016 at 11:20 AM
Good idea!

Quoting Northern.Maple:

Weird they won't allow a dinner and a movie. lol

I would reach out and invite the parents over as well and maybe they will see your home and how you are and will lighten up a bit.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Oct. 27, 2016 at 11:20 AM
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No means no.
SueWanda
by Platinum Member on Oct. 27, 2016 at 11:20 AM

Maybe invite the whole family

1Dexx3
by Silver Member on Oct. 27, 2016 at 11:21 AM
Maybe you can change the plans to taking them out to a movie and out to eat? That way it's public the whole time. If they don't change their minds, so be it. Their daughter. My oldest is allowed on escorted dates only.
Callaly
by Silver Member on Oct. 27, 2016 at 11:21 AM

I would call them personally, explain that you were going to be a chaperone and that you feel the same way about them being alone. Maybe invite the parents for dinner and if they are comfortable with the home then they can let the daughter stay for a movie?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Oct. 27, 2016 at 11:22 AM
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Hispanic parents? Yep, not gonna happen.
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