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Someone tell me how this is ok?! (Father's rights)

Anonymous
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So I work with this 19 year old kid. He was telling me about how the mother of his child (now 6 months) ran off to another state and will not let him see him. He said he tried legal aid but his income was too high, but he cannot afford a lawyer. His parents will not help because they say they are too young to be grandparents anyway.

He is lost and doesn't know what to do. I felt terrible for him. How is it ok for a mother to deny a father his child and he can't do anything just because he doesn't have enough money? He was tearing up when he was talking about it. This whole thing blew mind.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 13, 2017 at 11:56 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 13, 2017 at 11:56 AM
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DevotedMotheof3
by Mom-1st on Jan. 13, 2017 at 11:57 AM
It's not ok. She will eventually have to lay for this.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 13, 2017 at 11:59 AM
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It's not okay but if he really cared he would find a way to get a lawyer.
owl0210
by Sapphire Member on Jan. 13, 2017 at 12:00 PM
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He can represent himself in family court.
brime98
by Ruby Member on Jan. 13, 2017 at 12:01 PM
He doesn't need a lawyer and is just feeding you excuses.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 13, 2017 at 12:03 PM

His rights will begin when he proves paternity. Being on the birth certificate is not enough. Until he gets the ball rolling, she has all the rights. Tell him to start talking to lawyers - most will give a first consult free. If he's bright enough, he can take her to court for a custody order.

OTOH, once he establishes paternity and goes after visitation he can pretty well count on her going after him for child support ...


pendragon928
by on Jan. 13, 2017 at 12:04 PM

First question...has he established paternity? If not he can file a motion for paternity in the county he lives in or the county the child was born in, if he meets income requirements he can claim pauper status and he may be able to file for free and the county shouldn't charge him for the paternity test.  He would do this through his state department of health and human services child support dividusion. With a paternity hearing will also come a hearing for support, which will include custody and visitation and unless the mother can prove that her move across state lines was for legally defined gainful purposes that would improve living conditions for the child, the judge will most like order mom and baby back to state.

Melissa_4
by Navy Mom on Jan. 13, 2017 at 12:04 PM

If he is paying child support, he needs to go to the Clerk Of Court and file an emergency custody hearing.  Pray the court suspend the child support to her (but he still will have to pay it) until the mother produces the child.  If there is already CS and custody orders, he can file charges of parental kidnapping.  

AllieReed
by Ruby Member on Jan. 13, 2017 at 12:04 PM
It isn't.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 13, 2017 at 12:05 PM
He doesn't need a lawyer. If the facts are indeed as he says they are, then the judge will be able to see it.
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