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My SD11 is losing her s***!

Posted by on Jan. 18, 2017 at 10:20 AM
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I don't even know what has gotten into her!
And honestly I don't know what to do about it!

Apparently on Monday she was bullying her brother enough to make him cry (rubbing it in his face he didn't get to spend the night at his aunts and she got to stay for the whole weekend) and as punishment she wasn't allowed to go out with her BMs uncle.
In retaliation she punched her BM in the chest!
I'm sorry but this is unacceptable.
She has been trying to step up to me recently as well.
A few weeks ago I was holding DS1 and she pushed me with both hands. I told her BM this morning she was lucky that my hands were full of baby.
I'm just at a loss! As of right now she is grounded and she won't be sleeping over anywhere until she adjusts her attitude!
What else can I do?!
by on Jan. 18, 2017 at 10:20 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jan. 18, 2017 at 10:22 AM
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Nothing. You're not her parent. Have her father deal with it
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 18, 2017 at 10:23 AM
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Sorry but if either of my kids would have punched me at 11 I would had busted their ass
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 18, 2017 at 10:23 AM
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So her sk can push her While holding her baby and she is to do nothing. Umm no

Quoting Anonymous 1: Nothing. You're not her parent. Have her father deal with it
JalynSpoon
by CajunTarHeel on Jan. 18, 2017 at 10:24 AM
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And where is the father in all of this?

fullxbusymom
by Sapphire Member on Jan. 18, 2017 at 10:25 AM
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You take away everything, she goes no where and gets loads of extra chores. 

KyliesMom5
by Ruby Member on Jan. 18, 2017 at 10:28 AM
Nothing, her parents need to deal with this. It sounds like they need to get her into therapy.
crochetnewb
by on Jan. 18, 2017 at 10:28 AM


Quoting JalynSpoon:

And where is the father in all of this?

This.

Have you tried talking to her OP? If this is new behavior something has to be going on to cause it.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 18, 2017 at 10:29 AM

Why is her father not putting a stop to this shit?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 18, 2017 at 10:29 AM
Was it bm who said she couldn't go to the uncles? That's why she pushed bm? What does bm and dad say about it?

I'm not sure what I would do either. she def won't be allowed to go anywhere, maybe the other kids could go to a relatives or something. I'd possibly start a weekend treat thing. I used to do that with ds, where if the week went good, on Friday night, we'd do fun stuff.. do something like that and all the kids have to earn their fun night.

Maybe even start a silent journal...? You and her write in it or her and someone else close to you (mom or dad).. anything written in the journal won't be verbally talked about, she won't get in trouble but it'll give her a chance to work through her emotions.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 18, 2017 at 10:31 AM

She has every right to stand up for herself.

If my kids ever treated their stepmom the way this child is treating her stepmother I would expect her to discipline my kids.

Quoting Anonymous 1: Nothing. You're not her parent. Have her father deal with it


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